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Lil Miss Perfect

Peep that title!  I was called that a couple of weeks ago and I just can't shake it.  Since I can't shake it, let's talk about it. 

It's not about being perfect.  For me, it was never about being perfect.  I'm not looking for perfect.  Perfect doesn't least not in this realm.  But do you want to know what does exist?  Functional!!!  I'm not trying to be perfect, but I am definitely all for being functional.  And if that means making some changes to my life, so bit it. 

My parentals have always told me when you know better, you do better.  For my fellow Christians, I will refer you to 1 Corinthians 13:11.  Don't worry, this will be the only biblical reference, probably. 

The point is that in this life, things are going to happen.  We are going to experience different things.  And whether we want to believe it or not, we're going to mature faster than some of the people our same age.  But there is one thing that will always remain true - yo…
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I do well at keeping my private life private.  I'm the best at keeping a low profile.  I'm absolutely awesome when it comes to the silent treatment.  And quite frankly, I can disappear like no one else.  But right now, I need to let you in.  No, I'm not giving you any tea about my last relationship.  If that's what you're looking for, stop reading.  Right now, it's all about me and some things I'm feeling.  

There is a trio of us that do our absolute best to meet twice a month.  Typically, it's for dinner because we are pros at shutting down restaurants.  Then we move out to the parking lot and continue the laughs.  We also have a pretty fun group chat too.  That's where this started.  

I confessed that I was having a hard time with something, but needed to talk it out.  For the second time that weekend, we met to eat and chat.  I had a confession.  

When it comes to dating while plus, I'm not confident at all!!!  It isn't rejection that is the…

C to the E's been a while.  Seriously, it's been a long while.  Well, let me get you caught up.  Since New Year's Day, I've lost 46.3 pounds.  My work schedule got all the way cray cray because of Hurricane Florence.  I have gone through a breakup.  And I finally decided to make the following announcement...

I'm Celibate!!!
I haven't had sex since January 2017.  I'm working on breaking my streak of three and a half years.  For those of you trying to do the math, I'm on a mission to make it past July 2020!  The only exceptions is if someone comes along and decides to change my last name...or at least adds  hyphen to it.  
Let me tell you a few things celibacy is not... Celibacy is not you asking me if we can have sex.  I've told you my stance on the subject.  Either move on or take this time to join me in celibacy. Celibacy is not a phase.  At least to me it isn't.  Either you are cool with my lifestyle or you need to move on with your life. Celibacy …

Tasty Tales - Cheesy Zucchini Breadsticks

I posted one of my dinner dishes on my Instagram page this week and you seemed to have really loved it.  I've never had so many DMs asking me for a recipe.  Since you wanted the recipe, I've decided to share it here in a post.  I can't tell you how I Tameika-ized it because I've made it differently each time I've made it.  However, I can give you the basics and what I've learned.  
Cheesy Zucchini Breadsticks
Serving Size: 6 Servings
4 cups grated zucchini 1/2 cups mozzarella cheese 1/3 cups parmesan cheese 1 egg 1 teaspoon garlic salt 1 cup grated cheese of choice (for topping)
Grate the zucchini and squeeze as much juice out as possible.  In a bowl, combine together the zucchini, mozzarella cheese, paremsan cheese, egg, and garlic salt.  Stir until everything is combined.  On a lined baking sheet, lay out the zucchini mixture to at least half an inch thick.  Bake at 425F for 15 minutes.  Remove from the oven and top with your choice of ch…

I'm Ready 8255

In the same week, the industry lost two icons.  One has graced our closet and phone cases for years, while the other was invited into our homes on a weekly basis.  These two deaths reminded us of how life can seem so perfect, yet one is hurting on the inside.  The response to both suicides was overwhelming and once again, it got a very taboo conversation started.  On the other hand, it also brought out the ugly.

It's been a couple of weeks since all of this happened and the commotion has since come to a minimum.  You are probably wondering why has she waited until now to talk about this?  It's simple - I wasn't ready.  As a survivor, I wasn't ready.  As someone who faces anxiety on a daily basis, I wasn't ready.  As a blogger disappointed in some of the people in the blogger community, I'm ready.

My social media may or may not light up because of this post, but I'm going to say it anyway.  I'm highly disappointed in some of my fellow bloggers.  While we…

Transformer!!! Tuesday's post, I told you that I had a bit of a breakdown on Sunday.  Those might not have been my exact words, but that's exactly what the hell happened!!!  I sent a snap to my friend telling her that I was too old to be having hair breakdowns, but she assured me that I was fine and that hair breakdowns had no age.  She made me feel better.  

Here's the story.  Friday night, my extensions were removed and I was fine.  You know, I hadn't had to do my hair for a couple of months.  I wasn't looking forward to "wash day" (which essentially turned into wash weekend), but I could handle I thought.  Saturday, I was going to an event.  I got my natural hair up in a puff cuff and went on about my business.  I didn't like how the back of my hair looked and since I was going to a party Saturday evening anyway, I just let my afro be free the rest of the day.  Then came Sunday....
When I left my place to go on my adventure, my afro was cute!!!  B…

It's Going Down...

Last week, my blog was exclusively on Instagram.  It was something I did called #5days5dresses and I enjoyed showing off my style...especially since it has been some years that I've been able to fit into a few of the dresses.  Well, I promised to be transparent about this weight loss thing and we talk about this in the blog at the first of the month weigh-in.  Since I was only on Instagram last week, I didn't get to post, but I'm here now. 

I'm happy to report that for the month of May, I lost 6.8 pounds!!!  YAY!!!!!!!!!

How did I do it?  Well, I changed my diet.  I went pescatarian.  I thought it was going to be hard, especially since I don't really like fish, but I've survived.  I've also found a love for quinoa.  Honestly, the biggest change has been the step up in my veggie game.  I love veggies, but I'm not only having them at meals, but I'm also having them for snacks.  It's been great!!!  I also cut out bread, rice, and pasta.  That has b…