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BoPo 5-Oh!

Typically, I'm really good about saving posts when they give me inspiration for a post.  But I have a feeling that I just didn't save what I thought I saved. UGH!!!  In other words, we're going off memory, folks.

It was sometime in the first week of January that someone went all the way off on people and called them the Body Positive Police.  Oh, I laughed.  There was so much truth in the statement that I couldn't help but laugh.  Long story short, this person said the body positive movement was nothing but a joke if you didn't include every body.  She is right!!!

Keep in mind I said this took place the first week of January aka New Year's Resolution time.  People want to lose weight, cool.  I've lost just over 50 pounds.  I'm still plus size.  So am I not body positive because I wanted to lose weight?

Is Tess Holliday body positive being a plus model without the acceptable plus model body?  I think she is, but a lot of you call her names and say she…
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I haven't had sex since January 2017.  I'm working on breaking my streak of three and a half years.  For those of you trying to do the math, I'm on a mission to make it past July 2020!  The only exceptions is if someone comes along and decides to change my last name...or at least adds  hyphen to it.  
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