I've been friends with *Lisa for more than 20 years. We met in middle school and we instantly clicked. I truly consider her to be one of my greatest friends and I honestly can't imagine my life without her. This is why I was so hurt a few years ago when her life took a path none of us expected.
Without going into too much detail, her path involved drugs, sex, and money. Of course, plenty of lies were told too. Hell, I was even in some of the lies. I didn't know about that part until people were asking me if I was "OK" and I had a reaction people didn't expect.
Oh, we talked. I mean, she's my friend and I needed to know what was going on...especially since I was in her twisted stories. But I was patient with her. I let her talk, even though I knew some of what she was telling me was lies. Even though it was from a distance, she still remained my friend. At this very moment, she's one of my best friends. And do you want to know why we're still friends? She never told me directly or indirectly to GTFOO her L!
I don't care what you are going through, there are two things I don't think you should ever do...alienate the people around you and tell people who have been (and still are) rooting for you to GTFOO you L. Really? Why in the world would you even do that? And don't give me this mess about "well you don't know what they are going through". You're right, I don't know what they are going through, but I do know a few things...
1 - We all go through stuff
2 - Life is hard
3 - There is a right way to talk to people
Telling people to leave is not wise. Just because I'm sitting back on the sideline and not speaking, it doesn't mean I'm not watching. I'm seeing more than you want me to see and I'm definitely taking notes. Besides, the very people you are telling to leave might just be the very people you need to stay.