Sunday, April 23, 2017

Talking body

There has been a few videos floating around on Facebook recently that has really annoyed me.  The video isn't annoying me, but the reaction.  There is a young lady who is showing how to put on shape wear.  Cool.  I have a few items myself - don't wear them often, but the product she is wearing has caught my eye recently.  

In the videos, to me, it is OBVIOUS this woman has lost a considerable amount of weight.  She is basically using the shape wear to help hold in the skin around her mid section.  Cool.  She seems to struggle, but who doesn't when trying to put on this stuff that has the potential to cut off your circulation?!  Ok, dramatic, but we know that is how it feels!  She gets it on and she looks great, which is exactly what the product is supposed to do.  

So why are people laughing at her?  Someone posted in the comments just go to the gym.  Like I previously said, she has obviously done that, but just hasn't been able to tone or is in the process of toning.  Personally, when I'm on the journey to lose weight, I will lose about 15 to 20 pounds and then add in yoga to help with the toning part.  If I don't do that, I will be doing the same thing she is doing, trying to fit all the skin in something to make it not look as bad.  

Here is the thing that really annoys me with the video though - most of the people with the negative comments are wearing single digit sizes with no problem or still working out themselves to reach a goal.  Oh, how quickly we forget it was just a few years ago you were calling yourself Precious and you were calling yourself negative names, but you want to talk about why this woman is posting video.  

What if the lady is making money by posting and the company is getting good advertisement?  What if these videos are part of her journey?  What if she can't afford to get the skin removed or a trainer (because some are pricey)?  What if she is doing the best she can with what she has?  Don't knock the lady for doing what she can until she is where she wants to be.  

What do you see on social media that just gets on your last nerves?  

Friday, April 21, 2017

What the

I have officially reached the point where I say what the hell is wrong with me when it comes to my place in life.  I'm quickly approaching mid-thirties.  Like, when I say quickly, I feel like the next moment I'm going to wake up from the nightmare and be in my forties.  Dang, I actually said nightmare.  That wasn't one of those words that was planned - that was just me hitting the keys and apparently being really honest with myself about my place in this world.  

It's seems like it's going to be another year of wedding announcements and birth announcements and life is just going to keep passing me by.  I mean, I'm happy for everyone, but I can't help but sit back and wonder what is wrong with me?

I mean, I'm a cool person, with a side of attitude.  However, I'm also curious as to why I keep feeling like I'm being punished.  Yep, that's exactly how I feel - I'm being punished.  It's gotta get better, right?

So, here I sit and just watch life past me by.  It's really like everyone is going 100 and I'm stuck in park.  But I have absolutely no reason to complain - I have a roof over my head, food in my fridge, and plenty of clothes in my closet.  Life is good...just not moving at the pace I thought it would.  Ok, I guess I will just keep enjoying the ride...right?  

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

My name is Shayla and I'm a #psblogger

Tragically and without me really seeing it, my blog - this blog- stopped doing what it was supposed to do, featuring my plus size life.  I was doing Backstage Pass and featuring plus females in the industry (because I cannot seem to get males to be part of it).  I was talking about pop-culture.  I was talking about what I thought would get me more popular.  Then one day, I sat down and looked at my blog heading and the description and realized that blog doesn't exist anymore.  

That realization hurt.  It hurt because, at the time, 3 years of my journey had turned into a few months of posts dedicated to getting blog hits. That's not what this blog was intended to be about and it for dang sure wasn't what I wanted it to be about.  This brings me to today's posts.  

In the last quarter of 2016, I was determined to make a change and get this blog back to its roots.  I wanted it to stand out, but I also wanted it to be a reflection of me.  I'm a plus size woman.  I'm thick.  I'm chunky.  I'm a lover of food.  I'm all the cruel things society thinks of me.  I'm the DUFF.  But underneath all the skin, at the end of the day, I'm Shayla.  

Yes, I'm Shayla.  The woman who enjoys wearing cute clothes, making sure my face is flawless (with or without makeup), who loves wearing cute shoes, and loves to be in front of the camera.  I'm also Shayla, the (unorthodox) introvert.  Then, let me introduce you to Shayla, the anxiety sufferer.  Before I forget, there is also Shayla, the music lover.  And I do all this while being a plus size woman.  So why in the world did I stop calling myself what I was?  What I am...

a #psblogger?

I actually posted that hashtag on twitter a few weeks ago and someone actually asked me what it was.  Honestly, I wasn't that shocked they didn't know because it's not a hashtag commonly used.  For some reason, there is a stigma behind showcasing the fact you are plus size blogger because some brands don't want to work with you because you don't fit their look.  Cool, fine with me.  Some days, I don't fit my own look, but I still rock the hell out of whatever I'm wearing, clothing and makeup wise.  

I'm proud of who I am of the community I represent.  I carry myself well and I think I have finally proven to myself that I don't need a single digit size dress to validate myself or how I feel.  I'm Shayla.  I'm a plus size woman and I'm just happy to be a blogger.  A #psblogger with so many more stories to tell.  

What have you learned about yourself that no longer makes you ashamed?