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Downsizing...

I've been noticing a lot of posts, other than my own, about plus size people losing weight and making better life choices.  I've been very vocal about my weight loss.  I'm very proud of myself.  In fact, I am happy to tell you that this month, I've lost a little over 4 pounds.  I know that some of you may be cheering for me and excited, just like I'm excited for another friend of mine who reported today she is down 4 jean sizes.  However, I also know there are just as many people hating the progress I've made.  

I don't understand that.  For those of us trying to lose weight, we know it's a battle.  It's a daily battle.  Then when we try to share it with other people and they act like they don't care, it sort of let's you know who is with you.  For instance, if you tell one of your smaller friends, they could be secretly in their mind thinking but you're the token big girl friend.  Then if you tell a fellow plus diva, they could be secret…

The challenge

I have a wonderful friend who keeps me accountable and forces me to take a look at myself.  So, as I continue on this weight loss journey, there is one thing she wanted me to gain a little more of.  Even though I have, I still haven't really reached my own personal goal.  I'm a people person. I work for a government agency and that allows me to meet new people all the time.  However, it is within the comfort of my job and it is something I have a little bit of control over.  What we need to work on now is confidence when I am outside my comfort zone.  



In order for her to help me out in this endeavor, she gave me a challenge - I have to find a social group to meet up with.  Ok, that is all well and cool, but that is the moment where I start to clam up and I shut down.  In fact, I know this fact about me so well that I even mentioned it to another friend today.  

Here is the only way I know to explain it.  Every since I was a child, I have been told in order for me to be successf…

Love is (supposed to be) blind

Any of us that have been to a wedding or even opened the Bible is probably familiar with the Love Chapter.  The title of this post has a little something to do with that, even though it is not directly stated in the chapter.  



The story I read was actually a local news story about a blind couple whose dogs liked to play with each other.  They would meet on the dog dates and those eventually turned into dates for them.  They fell in love and are planning a wedding for sometime next year (their guide dogs will help them both get down the aisle). 

After reading that story, I couldn't help but think love is actually blind in this situation (don't laugh because I'm being very serious).  They can't see each other so they depend on their other 4 senses to do the work.  I could focus on all 5 senses, but the three that stick out in this situation (in my opinion) are the senses of hearing, touch, and sight.  How does sight play a role if they are blind?  Just let me get this enti…

The Things That Keep A Man Single - my reponse to The Things That Keep A Woman Single

So sometime this week, Evan Moore (a fellow blogger) posted a blog titled The Things That Keep A Woman Single.  I found this post with the help of a Facebook friend.  I read it and of course, there was a certain one that got to me because I am a plus diva.  However, I figured why focus on just that one item when I had the opportunity to do a proper response (in my own style).  In order to do this, I found the author on twitter (@evanFmoore) and let him know that I would be doing a response to his post.  With his blessing, this is what brings me to my post tonight.  Now, you know I like to put my own spin on things (that's the joy of being a writer - I can do my own thing), so here goes.  

Here is the link to Evan's post (http://www.chicagonow.com/fanning-flames-since-1978/2013/08/the-things-that-keeps-a-woman-single/).  I really hope you take the chance to read his post before you read the rest of this one, especially since this is technically a response to his post.  In order …

I eat because...

Well, if you missed #HautiesTalk on Tuesday night August 6 with @manikmag, you missed out on something really awesome.  The topic of discussion was Emotional Eating.  While chatting with the wonderful people in the forum, I couldn't help but to think about myself.  Not having a selfish moment, but looking back on the choices I've made and coming to grips with my size being my own fault.  Then it made me think highly about if my emotional eating led to other things in my life - unhealthy eating, struggle with unhealthy choices to lose weight, etc.  

So, since I like for you to be perfectly honest with me, I feel like I need to be perfectly honest with you.  My story of emotional eating isn't glamorous and it definitely isn't great, but it's honest. 


The first time I remember emotional eating was in high school.  In fact, I can tell you the exact moment.  I had tried out for JV cheerleading for basketball, but I didn't make it.  My dad had taken me back to school t…

Beach Body

Well, I received an invite to go to the beach this weekend and of course, I could not turn it down!  In this gorgeous weather, my best friend since college and I walk down to the beach.  Of course us being females, we make a few observations.  We saw a few people in bathing suits that should have stayed on the rack and we saw some people that believed in wearing as little as possible to get into the ocean.  However, there is one thing we were very happy to see.  Since both of us are plus size divas, we were happy to see people of our size and bigger enjoying the beach in their bathing suits. 
You know I broke out the tankini and I am happy to say, so did my friend.  I am so happy to see people embracing their curves and enjoying life, no matter their size.  For so long, people used to stay covered at the beach until they got into the water (if they even took the chance to get into the water).  I wore my coverup to walk to the beach, but after I got situated and ready to lie in the sun,…