Saturday, March 29, 2014

The Callback - Part II

This is probably not going to be my longest post ever.  I promised you that whether the news was good or bad, I was going to share something with you today.  I've been keeping this under wraps because I wasn't ready to share it just yet.  However, today is the day.  I hope that you find this inspirational and learn that you should never let anyone take anything away from you.  

I've learned that when doors close or slam in my face, it is usually because there is something greater.  It hurts for the door to do that, but you just have to keep the faith.  No, this isn't about religion.  I really don't care what religion your practice because that is your freedom and your choice, I'm just telling you to have faith in all that you.  A few years ago, I was approached about doing something in the entertainment industry.  Not thinking I have the body to be out like that, I laughed it off, but at the same time, it did peak my interest.  I'm a writer, so I had to start getting used to people seeing my face.  I started doing photo shoots in order to get my image out there and I found that I really enjoyed it.  Sure, it was something that I could do and the more I did, the more I kept saying "Wow, that's me!"  

A few months ago, the same thing happened, but I didn't laugh it off.  Then a few weeks ago, I was asked again and this time I decided to give it a shot.  In my short life, I've also learned that if more than 2 people tell you something, they must see something in you that you cannot see in yourself.  Today was the day.  I had practiced, and practiced, and practiced.  I had learned that even when I messed up a line, keep going because only you will know that you messed up.  Nerves are a good thing because they keep you on your toes.  All the prep work that I had put in since last Saturday must have paid off because when I heard those words Welcome to the agency, I knew then that my life was going to change.  

That's right!  Not only is your girl writing, but she is also now with an agency that is going to market her as an actress.  Isn't that cool?  This would have never happened if I would have let doors (whether they were the hurtful words of people, the dirty looks, or negative feedback from anything I was trying to do), keep me down.  There is potential in all of us.  We just have to figure out a way to tap into it.  We are here for greatness.  

Don't worry - I'm still going to write.  I'm still going to be part of Manik Mag (www.manikmag.com).  It's just that now, I get to have more of an inside scoop.  I think this is the beginning of a wonderful thing for me and I look forward to being transparent with you (as much as I'm allowed to do so) about this journey.  

Honestly, I just want to say THANK YOU!  You read my work.  You keep me going.  You keep me motivated.  You are such a blessing to me and I hope to be able to give back to you what you have given me.  Ok - I'll stop before we all get emotional, but those words are true.  

If there is a goal you want, keep going until you get it.  Then, here's the really fun part, set a new goal!!!  I know that I already have.  Good luck to you and your endeavors.  Mark your positive mark on the world.  

Friday, March 28, 2014

Size isn't everything

A few weeks ago, I saw one of my favorite artist on Katie.  Now, I'm not a fan of the daytime talk show, but she had an interesting topic going and I absolutely love one of her guest.  Mandisa was on the show talking about her weight loss and what she does to keep it off.  She also mentioned how the comments of Simon Cowell affected her life and actually motivated her to change her life.  

Even though in mean spirits, Cowell's comments caused Mandisa to make a lifestyle change that she has kept up with today.  She introduced to me, MadiserSize.  Now, I'm pretty sure that I am not spelling that right, but I liked the concept.  She said that she enjoyed Zumba (which I do too).  However, she also said that she changed the name to MandiserSize because she did it to Christian music.  It was her way of getting her workout and praise on at the same time.  

Why did that really get my attention?  Well at this point in my life, God has taken a huge step forward in my life.  I workout.  I enjoy working out, but I have never worked out to gospel music.  It was an interesting concept with me.  

Mandisa used Cowell's words as motivation.  She then allowed God to use her to create beautiful music to spread his word.  And she is using the gift of other artists as she works out.  It sort makes a circle for me.  

I really enjoyed seeing her on Katie.  She was so inspiration, while staying true to herself.  She's still curvy and looks amazing.  She is another inspiration for me because the size that I want to be down to is still considered plus size.  I think she is still plus size too.  She's still cool about her curves and she loves herself.  

We may not ever be skinny, but it is important for us to love us for who we are.  We are beautiful and amazing, plus size women.  It's time that we all start owning that.  Change what you need to change in order to maintain health, but don't make a change just because someone tells you that you are not beautiful.  Beauty is only skin deep and I would argue that the person that told you such things are ugly for saying so.  

Find Mandisa on Twitter @mandisaofficial and make sure to check out her awesome music! 

Saturday, March 22, 2014

The Callback!

So, I am going to try to write this post while keeping something a secret.  I still am trying to figure out some things and that is the only reason I am keeping something under wraps, for now.  

Today I had the opportunity to meet with someone concerning an endeavor that I wanted to pursue.  What I thought was a door closing could quite possibly be a few doors (yes, plural) opening.  I listened to her and she gave me some advice about how to go about some things.  She even let me know an event that she was in charge of and encouraged me to check out the site and put my writing skills to good use.  Like I said, I don't want to say exactly what it is right now, but I feel like I am going to be able to in just a few short weeks.

This is the point of this post tonight, Don't Give Up!  When it seems like a door is being slammed in your face, it's probably not.  It's just one closing so that you don't go down a path that you are not supposed to go down.  Pay attention to what people tell you.  You never know when they are going to say something that lights a fire in you.  When I write, my inspiration not only comes from my own experiences, but also from conversations I've had with people and things that I have observed other people doing.  

If we live in our own bubble, we will never truly get the chance to enjoy all that life has to offer us.  Take chances.  Make mistakes.  New take opportunities for granted.  You never know what is going to happen.  Make your life worth living.  

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Growing Up Plus

I had the idea for this post last night and I really wanted to write it.  I just had one big, major problem - I didn't have my laptop.  Luckily, my computer guru buddy only took one night to fix my baby and quickly got me back to doing what I love.  So, here we go.  

As you all know, I get inspired from so many people around me.  It can be what they have on, their personalities, the overheard conversations, just anything that happens around me.  Well, the inspiration for this post actually came from the tweet chat #HautiesTalk that was held by ManikMag (@manikmag, www.manikmag.com) on last night.  It's so neat to talk about things that are going on in the "plus community" and not feel bad or be ridiculed about it.  The one thing I really took notice of last night is the fact that there are so many more outlets for us plus diva today.  

When I was growing up, I felt like I had to dress older than what I was.  I had to shop in the smallest size of the adult store because "junior plus" wasn't popular back then.  I felt like my friends had all the trendy clothes and I was stuck with whatever my mom could find that she thought fit me.  Please note, my dad has never been one to buy me clothes because he said that I always had a different sense of style.  

There was really not a safe place to talk about being plus size.  Even when you tried to talk about it, the only thing people seemed to be able to say was "lose weight".  It's not that simple.  Even when the weight comes off, there comes the struggle of learning to live in a new body and facing the fact that people are going to look at your different because you are smaller.  Then you have those that are going to hate on you because you lost weight and you are starting to look better than them.  It's like we cannot win.  

I'm so thankful that I was able to grow up in a time where it was so hard because now I can appreciate the things that I see now.  I'm happy to see changes in how we are looked at because if I am blessed enough to have a daughter in the future and she grows up a little bit thick, she won't have to go through what I went through.  In fact, I would like to say I had a hand in the change.  Believe it or not, so did you.  How?  Well, I decided to write about it and you took the time to read about it.  I spread my thoughts to you and hopefully, you share what you have read with others.  That's being part of a movement.  

The funny part is, in the 50s and 60s, having a little meat on you was cute and sexy.  I wonder who in that generation can tell me when that changed?  

Saturday, March 1, 2014

The look

I'm pretty sure that all chicks go through this.  You know, that moment when you suddenly desire to change your look or you just start doing it in small little increments?  Well, as I went shopping today and then returned to take a look at my closet, I noticed my change of clothing.  I'm not sure if it is because I have lost weight (only 22 pounds to go until I hit my goal) or if it is because the shy girl from my hometown no longer exists.  I would like to believe it is the latter of the two.  

So, my shopping excursion took me to Ashley Stewart (again) today.  Yes, I'm pretty much in love with that store.  Ok, let me get back to my "change".  Over the past few months, I have noticed a subtle change in my appearance.  My shoe game has truly gone through a change.  I never in my life thought that I would be rocking heels that way that I am right now.  I've ventured out into wearing more dresses and they have gotten a bit shorter.  Hey, I have to show off my fabulous legs.  Earring game, well, that never was a problem.  Makeup and lip gloss, well, let's just say I am keeping my local Ulta in business.  

Basically, how I feel on the inside is starting to show on the outside.  I love that.  I have never felt like this in my life and it is a wonderful experience.  It has taken me a long time to get here and I hope that no one ever takes that away from me.  I know that someone cannot take that away from me, but the fact of the matter is that someone once did and it took me a long time to recover from that.  However, since that is in the past, I'll digress.  Learn from the past, but don't let it haunt you.  

Ok, let me get back to this change thing.  I'm enjoying it.  I look different.  I feel different.  Life in general is just different because I have taken the time to let myself make mistakes, grow, and learn.  It's still happening.  I know there is much more to learn, but I guess the only thing left to do is to enjoy the ride.  

Change is good.  In fact, I feel so confident that I am going to step out on a limb and try something new.  Today, I start #AskShaylaEm on Instagram and I look forward to answering questions the entire month of March.  As for the other thing I am trying, well, I am still keeping that a secret until I'm ready to share it with you.  Just know that this change is amazing.