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The Shopaholic Diva

I don't know if you have been following on twitter for the past couple of days.  You can find me @TheShaylaEm.  However, I have been talking about cleaning up and out my closet and donating my clothes to others.  Well, I posted that same photo to my personal Facebook page -you know that one that is actually my government name.  LOL.  A former classmate of mine reached out to me and asked what size they were because she was in need.  She told me her story about what was going on and I was more than happy to help her.  On the other hand, there was something else that she said that really made me smile.  She told me, "you have a great sense of style".  That made me think about how blessed I was and it made me think about my style.  

Her saying that to me made me realize that more people are paying attention to my style than what I think.  I love taking photos and I love sharing my experiences with people.  I never thought that people would be paying attention to the outfits I had on in those photos, but they do.  So, since I've been told I have a great sense of style, I feel like I need to share where I shop and what I like and dislike about each store.  So here goes with some of my favorite places.  Keep in mind, these are in no particular order.  

Ashley Stewart:
I have discovered that this store has more styles that fit my still youthful clothing style.  The dresses are always beautiful and in my opinion, they have more of a selection of dresses that can be worn to parties and to church.  Yes, I double a lot of my clothing like that.  I just make sure to accessorize well and make sure I have the outfit looking right for whatever need I want.  Also, there jegging collection is amazing.  However, the way my body is shaped, I am not a fan of their jeans.  I have beautiful leg muscles (LOL) and their jeans just don't show that off enough for me.  Their tops are also wonderful and fit well over my large chest.  I won't give you the exact size, but I have been in a DD for probably a decade now and even with the weight loss, they just won't go away.  However, I do come from a family of busty women, so that could very well be in my genes.  In the photo to your right, I have worn this as a top, but also got brave enough to wear it as a dress for this photo shoot.  In other words, take chances with your outfits!

Since I ended with my bust size at Ashley Stewart, I will start with it here.  In my opinion, Avenue has the best bras for me and my comfort level.  Don't worry, you won't see a photo of me in my bra.  This store also has some beautiful shoes.  However, with my clothing style that I love, the store is not really a good fit for me.  The clothes in that store seem to appeal to an older generation and I am just not that conservative yet.  I probably should be in age, but my clothes do not reflect my age and I am 100% cool with that.  

My mom likes to call this the burlesque store.  I like to call it my "sexy" store.  I think price wise, this might be the most expensive store on my list, but if you can hit it just right for a clearance sale, you will not be disappointed.  However, Torrid has a no return policy on clearance items, so make sure you try on the clothes.  Their jeans don't really fit me well either, but their skirts do.  Weird, I know.  However, just make sure that you try on the clothes.  I cannot stress that enough.  In fact, you should do that in any store.  The maxi dresses are beautiful, but since I am short, I always have to get them hemmed.  But don't let that stop you - find someone you trust to do the alterations and buy those dresses.  Torrid also has a great jewelry selection!  I have almost gone broke in there buying jewelry, but it is all worth it.  Also, their legging and tight selection is always on point.  In my opinion, they have the most creative designs and take the most risk with the leggings and tights.  Their tops are adorable, but a little too strange for my taste.  I know, that sounds weird coming from me.  For the past few years, this has been the only store I have bought a bathing suit from because it flatters me so well.  Their shoe game is also tight.  I bought my first pair of knee high boots out of there and I hated it when I had to get rid of them.  I am sure that you will find something you like in the store.  The photo about is featuring a top for Torrid from a few seasons ago. 

Lane Bryant:
Honestly, I am just starting to fall back in love with Lane Bryant.  They had some tights this year that just really had me feeling myself and after that, I was hooked.  I love their panties.  I am a huge fan of the boy shorts (for walking around the house) and the hipster for everyday out and about use.  I cannot believe that I just told you my favorite underwear selection, but I just have to be that honest with you.  I cannot wear their jeans and I don't know why.  Another thing I cannot wear is their bras.  I have one strapless bra from them and that is the most comfortable bra I have ever had from them and we still only get along half of the time.  However, they have a beautiful dress selection.  Their blazers and tops are very comfortable and cute.  

Dress Barn:
I love them because of their dress selection.  This is my church wear store.  Since I do not frequent this store as often, there isn't much to say.  However, I say that when I go, I go hard.  During the winter season, keep an eye on them for their sweater selection.  You won't be disappointed.  Although I have never personally bought any from this store, the jewelry selection is really huge and full of beautiful colors.  You will be able to find your favorite color in that store.  The photo below is one of my recent purchases from Dress Barn.   

Old Navy:
If you know me personally and know my government name, you know my addiction and love for Old Navy.  When I started my weight loss journey, I wanted so much to lose weight so that I could fit in their jeans again.  Mission accomplished!  Honestly, they have the best quality and fit of jeans for me.  Plus, they have multiple fits and you can find something to fit your body shape.  The tops are amazing and flattering.  Their dresses are hit and miss for me because it depends on how they hug my chest.  Again, make sure you try your items on.  Also, I still cannot get into a bathing suit top.  They fit my tummy, but not my chest.  I love this store because I am comfortable in their clothes!  That is the most important thing - comfort!  Also, Old Navy is always having a sale.  You can go in there with a 100 bucks and leave with 150 bucks worth of clothes or more!  Truthfully, I had a bill come up to 150 and I spent just under 13.  Get on their mailing list and keep on the lookout for sales.  I know that this is a black and white, but this is an Old Navy outfit.  Black floral top and coral polka dot pants that have that wonderful 2 way stretch.  

Also, don't forget about Ross and other discount retailers.  You will have to look a little harder to find plus sizes and even harder to find your style in the selection, but you will find something.  Trust me, it is worth it.  

Those are my tops stores that I shop at and the pros and cons of each.  I love each one for different reasons and together, they help me put together amazing outfits for my photos.  So, if you were wondering about my sense of style and were too shy to ask, I hope this post helps you out a little bit.  Maybe fashion is another one of my callings.  


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