Friday, January 23, 2015

The Goddess likes Sugar

Alright, so I think I have told you (several times), but I like to talk about just about anything in this blog.  The only thing major that I haven't talked about is sex and one day, I'm pretty sure I will get there too.  However, tonight, I am coming for something different.  

So, for the first time (not me doing it myself), I decided to let someone else make the goddess (yep, that is what my special area is called) a little more groomed.  I have never had a bikini wax in my life.  I always made the effort to shave.  Well, a few months ago, without putting you in all my business, let's just say that something caused me to change and I will shave down there no more.  Well, since I was no longer shaving and had no desire to wax (due to the horror stories I had heard), I started looking up other options.

Body Sugaring starting popping up on Google.  Luckily, I found a place in my current city that specialized in the growing trend.  I had been warned to take something for pain before arriving, so I did.  I told them this was my first time so I think they took extra care of me.  However, sugaring is sugaring and some pain must be involved.  

Now, I was more nervous about my size than the actual sugaring itself.  I just wondered how she was going to address this situation with my body.  And in the most professional way, she said, "just lift right here and hold it tight".  That was it?  Nothing mean, hurtful, or weird.  I held my tummy, we had a cool conversation about body sugaring (she was extremely knowledgeable and even gave me hints about products to use), and just like that it was over.  

All this time, I was afraid to get waxed because I wondered how someone my size would be seen, but I had absolutely nothing to worry about at all.  Such an excellent experience and I cannot wait to go back for my next appointment in about 5 weeks.  

Thursday, January 22, 2015

My version of the Katie Hopkins story (in my own words)

Alright, family!  Hope you have all been doing well.  Yes, I said family.  That is exactly how I see all of you.  However, I feel like my plus family got attacked by some lady a few weeks ago.  I think I actually saw this story last week on Entertainment Tonight and it sort of rubbed me the wrong way.  

There was some lady in England (I could be wrong about the location) that thought she should do a project about "fat" people.  Her goal was to prove to "fat" people (yes, she kept using that word) that they were the cause of their own weight issue and health problems.  She proceeded to gain the weight (and she absolutely thought the food I thought was delicious was gross) and then she started to work out and eat "right" in order to lose the weight.  

Well, her goal worked, but she really upset a bunch of people.  So here is what I have to say to that lady.

I am a plus diva.  I'm proud of being a plus diva and it took me a long time to get that way.  The only major health issue I have is asthma and that is genetic.  Just because we are plus size doesn't mean that people are just eating until they can eat no more.  There are some medicines that cause weight gain.  So, take the medicine and feel better or not take the medicine and continue to be skinny?  When you are thinking like that, I personally think that is vain.  I know a person that had a thyroid issue and was terrified to have it removed because of her fear of surgery.  I think that is a legitimate fear.  So, what lady, you were just going to force her to do something where the fear alone could have killed her?  Have several seats.  Actually, I pity you.  Your perception of life is way off and if you can't accept that we are all different and meant to be different, then have mercy on your soul.  

Here is my real issue with this lady - she has no clue what it is like to walk in someone else's shoes.  Her weight loss journey was so different than those of us that struggle to keep weight off.  It is truly a lifestyle change for most of us, but I'm cool with that.  People like her just irk me.  

You don't know me.  You don't know us.  You have no clue what it is like.  Until you know that feeling, that real feeling, you can keep your opinions to yourself.  That goes for the lady and for anyone else that feels like spreading negativity instead of positivity.  

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Let's get to it

Alright, plus beauties, straight size beauties, and all fabulous beauties of the world - Happy New Year!!!  Yeah, I know that we are 8 days into 2015, but since this is my first post of the year, I had to say it.  

So, I don't know if you have noticed in all of my blogs, but around November, I go into a serious writing drought.  I don't know if it is because that is the beginning of what I consider my holiday season (I start at Halloween) or another reason.  I just know that my writing seems to slow down in all of my blogs and my last post, until I do my year end post, is typically late October or early November.  

As for this blog, fashion doesn't slow down - at least for me it doesn't.  I am always trying to figure out what I look good in (not trying to be a brat or anything), but that is just what I do.  I like to take risks with my outfits.  I like to push the envelope and make people do a serious double take.  I just like what my style says about me and I like it when someone can look at me and take a guess at what my mood is.  

I guess the end of the year makes me really think about what I direction I want to go in the next year concerning my writing.  Well, let me tell you what I am thinking about this blog for this year.  I want to be more open with you about my fashion choices, my life as a whole, some things you might think might be too personal (but I'm going to go there), have more interaction with you (twitter and instagram @TheShaylaEm) and some other things that I think just might be fun.  

The first thing that I was thinking that might be fun would be for you to ask me some questions and I give you some answers.  For that reason, I am asking you to reach out to me (see previous paragraph with my contact info for the social networks).  I want you to ask me questions and give me comments and let me know what you are thinking.  I really want more interaction with you this year.  I didn't get to interact with you a lot in 2014, well at least not concerning this blog, and I really want that to change.  

So, ask away!  Yes, i do reserve the right to not answer, but I look forward to what you want to know about me.  It came be anything to my favorite color, TV show, day of the week, number, favorite movie, or something more deep.  Ask on twitter and I'll keep track of them.  When I get ready to do the blog, I'll even tag you so that you will know that you are mentioned in the post.  

Can't wait to see what 2015 is going to do in our lives!!!