Monday, November 16, 2015

All about the DUFF

The sad part is I really don't think I even have to explain what DUFF means.  However, just in case you missed the movie (or just haven't heard it in pop-culture), DUFF = designated ugly fat friend.  

Well, since I used to love when #ConfessionNight started trending on twitter, I can give you one right now.  I used to be a DUFF.  Now, I've never thought I was ugly, but I can't help what went in the definition.  I can handle unflattering, but not ugly.  Let's get back to used to be a DUFF.  

I'm still FF, but I'm more confident.  Therefore, I am not longer a DUFF!  Once you take away the power of the word (or acronym), it will not hurt you anymore.  Honestly, it never hurt me in the first place because I was / am actually friends with the people, but I am a few sizes larger than then.  The thing is, I'm okay with that.  I'm okay with my size.  Like I said, I'm more confident now.  The word doesn't bother me.  On the other hand, there are some people where DUFF really hurts them.  

It's important to remember, even though not being PC is all the rage right now, it's always classy to be nice to one another.  We forget about humans having feelings.  Here's what I try to do - I always try to remember how I felt when my feelings were hurt, then I try to watch my actions and the words flowing from my mouth.  If we could all remember that, I think we will be better off.  

So, if you think (or know) you are a DUFF, get out of that mentality!  You are beautiful.  You are my version of DUFF - designated ultimate fabulous friend!  Always remember that fact.  

Monday, November 9, 2015

The preview

Last week, I had to take a couple of days off work because I was sick.  I went from having a great time with friends the previous night to waking up with a fever over 100 the next day.  Not exactly sure why my body decided to show out, but it could have been a good thing.  

On my second (and final) day home, I was having all of these thoughts about how I could make this blog better.  I mean, this is literally my baby.  I love it.  I nurture it.  I do what I can to make it better and help it grow.  I had written a particular post earlier in the year and it seemed to be a hit.  Quite frankly, it has been one of my most read blogs this year.  When something works for you, might as well give it another shot, right?

Well, that is exactly what I am doing.  Now, I'm not going to exactly tell you what is going down just yet because I am still working out details and making contacts.  However, I will tell you this, I am excited and I have a feeling this is going to be something great.  Each day I get extra motivated to make this blog better.  Each week I set a goal about who I want to connect with.  When I complete that goal, I feel so accomplished because I know my hard work now is going to pay off something awesome later.  

Here's the thing - hard work isn't supposed to be easy.  Making connections is not easy.  Putting yourself out there is not easy.  But you have to take a chance.  Five years ago, if you asked me if I was going to write and do my day job, I would have laughed in your face.  I couldn't see myself making the effort after working 8 hours a day to create and maintain a business - but I do it.  Why?  Because I know there is something out there waiting for me to grab it and never let it go.  

Time for you to start reaching out for your dreams.  As this journey continues, not only will you see it come to pass in my work, but I will be happy to share the journey with you.  Each day is not going to be perfect and that is to be expected.  However, here is what I know - each day is going to be exactly right for me.