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Diva Dezynes!

I know I don't act like it, but I actually love going to visit my parentals.  The only thing I really don't enjoy is the traffic I sometimes run into during my two hour drive.  Even though I try to hang out with friends and family while there, I love just hanging out with the parentals.  When it comes to my dad, we bond around sports and movies.  When it comes to my mom, we bond around cooking, cooking shows, and doing crafts.  

My mom is a pretty awesome jewelry maker and she's trying to turn me into one.  I really don't like the whole jewelry making thing, but when I visit, I will make a few pieces with her. This brings me to Diva Dezynes.  


Now, she tells me I'm the reason she spells her company name like that.  I really don't remember me telling her how to spell it, but since she's mom, we'll just go with it.  

Throughout this entire post, you are going to see some of her various creations.  For instance, to the right, you see a beautiful blue earring …

Day 5 - THANK YOU!!!

Well, here we are.  There is a 10 dollar gift card from Starbucks up for grabs, as long as you are the first to answer correctly!  

What is the first name of the person in my first feature post?  
Hint: Answer can be found in a post from May 2015.  

Again, here are the rules and how to submit your answer!  

Rule 1 - You MUST be following me on Bloglovin!  You can simply click on the link on the right of the page to follow.  You do not have to have a blog in order to follow people.  Also, you will only get a notification when I post something new.  Besides, this will be a huge help when the contest starts.  
Rule 2 - You MUST be following me on Twitter and/or Instagram!  You can find the links to both pages on the right side of this page.  
Rule 3 - You MUST be the first person to answer the question correctly via email.  
Now that we have those out of the way, here is how you answer the question.  Simply email me at theshaylaem@gmail.com with what you think is the answer.  Within this same e…

Day 4 - THANK YOU!!!

Well, here we are.  There is a 10 dollar gift card from Starbucks up for grabs, as long as you are the first to answer correctly!  

Who did I do my first blog collaboration with?  
Hint: Answer can be found in a post from August 2013.  

Again, here are the rules and how to submit your answer!  

Rule 1 - You MUST be following me on Bloglovin!  You can simply click on the link on the right of the page to follow.  You do not have to have a blog in order to follow people.  Also, you will only get a notification when I post something new.  Besides, this will be a huge help when the contest starts.  
Rule 2 - You MUST be following me on Twitter and/or Instagram!  You can find the links to both pages on the right side of this page.  
Rule 3 - You MUST be the first person to answer the question correctly via email.  
Now that we have those out of the way, here is how you answer the question.  Simply email me at theshaylaem@gmail.com with what you think is the answer.  Within this same email, please …

Day 3 - THANK YOU!!!

Well, here we are.  There is a 10 dollar gift card from Starbucks up for grabs, as long as you are the first to answer correctly!  

What size clothes did I wear when my body was most awkward as a teen?  
Hint: Answer can be found in a post in June 2014.  

Again, here are the rules and how to submit your answer!  

Rule 1 - You MUST be following me on Bloglovin!  You can simply click on the link on the right of the page to follow.  You do not have to have a blog in order to follow people.  Also, you will only get a notification when I post something new.  Besides, this will be a huge help when the contest starts.  
Rule 2 - You MUST be following me on Twitter and/or Instagram!  You can find the links to both pages on the right side of this page.  
Rule 3 - You MUST be the first person to answer the question correctly via email.  
Now that we have those out of the way, here is how you answer the question.  Simply email me at theshaylaem@gmail.com with what you think is the answer.  Within this …

Day 2 - THANK YOU!!!

Well, here we are.  There is a 10 dollar gift card from Starbucks up for grabs, as long as you are the first to answer correctly!  

What clothing store did I say "good-bye" to after a bad customer service experience?
Hint:  Answer can be found in a post from October 2015.

Again, here are the rules and how to submit your answer!  

Rule 1 - You MUST be following me on Bloglovin!  You can simply click on the link on the right of the page to follow.  You do not have to have a blog in order to follow people.  Also, you will only get a notification when I post something new.  Besides, this will be a huge help when the contest starts.  
Rule 2 - You MUST be following me on Twitter and/or Instagram!  You can find the links to both pages on the right side of this page.  
Rule 3 - You MUST be the first person to answer the question correctly via email.  
Now that we have those out of the way, here is how you answer the question.  Simply email me at theshaylaem@gmail.com with what you think i…

Day 1 - THANK YOU!

Well, here we are.  There is a 10 dollar gift card from Starbucks up for grabs, as long as you are the first to answer correctly!  

What process do I use to get unwanted hair removed?  
Hint: Answer can be found in a post in January 2015 and April 2016.  

Again, here are the rules and how to submit your answer!  

Rule 1 - You MUST be following me on Bloglovin!  You can simply click on the link on the right of the page to follow.  You do not have to have a blog in order to follow people.  Also, you will only get a notification when I post something new.  Besides, this will be a huge help when the contest starts.  
Rule 2 - You MUST be following me on Twitter and/or Instagram!  You can find the links to both pages on the right side of this page.  
Rule 3 - You MUST be the first person to answer the question correctly via email.  
Now that we have those out of the way, here is how you answer the question.  Simply email me at theshaylaem@gmail.com with what you think is the answer.  Within this …

We Are 3

Oh, man, where did the time go?!  When I started this blog, on this day, exactly 3 years ago, I honestly had no idea what I was getting into.  I didn't know if it would be more personal about how I felt being a plus diva.  I didn't know if I was going to be deep and try to say some profound things people would remember.  I didn't know if I would enjoy the conversation because some people can be cruel.  I didn't know what other subjects I was going to talk about.  The only thing I knew on this day 3 years ago is that I wanted to write and I wanted to do good writing.  


I can honestly tell you, starting this blog has been one of the best decisions I have ever made.  I still don't know what I'm getting into, but I'm loving the journey.  I have enjoyed letting you into my life as a plus diva.  I have enjoyed trying to find profound things to say that will stick with you.  I have enjoyed the conversation because you have been so kind and generous with your feedba…

This is me saying THANK YOU!

Tomorrow is a super awesome day in my life.  This blog, The Plus Diaries, turns 3 years old!!!  What a wonderful 3 year journey this has been and it could not have happened without your support!  So, I figured, it's about time I thank my faithful readers and loyal followers.  

How am I going to say thank you?  Well, it's time for the first ever giveaway in The Plus Diaries!  Starting on May 26th and going until May 30, I will be doing a daily giveaway.  It's open to ALL readers!  Five different days will generate five different winners.  However, like most things in life, there are a few rules to this contest.  
Rule 1 - You MUST be following me on Bloglovin!  You can simply click on the link on the right of the page to follow.  You do not have to have a blog in order to follow people.  Also, you will only get a notification when I post something new.  Besides, this will be a huge help when the contest starts.  
Rule 2 - You MUST be following me on Twitter and/or Instagram!  …

The product groupie

It is no big secret there is a particular line of products I use for my face and body cleansing.  I even use their lotion and sunscreens.  Not only do I enjoy it, but any dermatologist I've ever seen has recommended their products.  I am a Neutrogena girl all the way!!!  I'm just really happy my doctors told me to use a product I actually enjoy.  

I have a face cleaning regimen every morning and every night!  It changes, depending on whether or not I have had on makeup.  By the way, don't sleep in your makeup.  Just not cool!  

I know I have mentioned my love of the Neutrogena Wave Sonic, which has sadly been discontinued since 2014.  However, there is a new product I have just started to try.  I've been using it for the past two weeks and I believe it's a keeper!  

Let me introduce you to the Neutrogena Microdermabrasion System.  Yes, it's a mouth full, but it is amazing.  I was thinking this was going to be very similar to the Wave and Wave Sonic, but boy was I …

Big body, big hair

Earlier this week, I was cruising around the twitterverse and noticed a cool shirt floating around.  The shirt said, no you cannot touch my hair.  I thought it was funny, but it is a huge thing in the natural hair community that people do not like for their hair to be touched.  I might be the weird one because it honestly doesn't bother me.  Now, just don't come up to me and touch my hair, but if you ask and I'm feeling a bit friendly (LOL), I just might let you feel these beautiful natural curls that God so graciously gave me.  

In my opinion, my hair is awesome.  However, after my transition from processed to natural, I didn't always feel that was the case.  I was so used to my hair being straight and long.  But, I just kept cutting it shorter and shorter until I eventually did the big chop and I became 100% natural.  

I guess now, I feel more confident.  As the years have passed, I've been more confident in my body and now I'm a lot more confident in my hair.…

Backstage Pass with Jennifer Alexander

She’s a writer.  She’s a curve model.  She’s body positive about her own body and making great strides at spreading body positivity around the globe.  Who is she?  She is the fabulous Jennifer Alexander and she is on the move!


If you get a chance, check out her Instagram page.  Not only is her page full of beautiful photos, but it is also full of wonderful inspiration.  Recently, she posted a quote slightly derived from Anita Roddick, but with her own personal twist.  Alexander’s quote says, “…there are more than 7 billion representations of beauty in the world, never forget that you are one of them.”   How beautiful and inspiring are those words to share with every single person on the planet?  Beautiful words from a beautiful woman who grew up in a beautiful place.
Although born in Canada, Alexander did spend some of her childhood in the Caribbean.  She was able to spend a lot of time at the beach under sunny skies! 
The trick is one must surrounded with positive individuals.  Alexand…

Take Care

I know the title of this post sounds quite selfish, but it is the furthest thing from selfish.  Yes, it's about me (like many of my posts are), but I'm hoping this will help you.  

Many of us have been touched by cancer.  Some families have multiple cancers within them.  Some people unfortunately have a gene for cancer. This is not me telling you that you are not taking care of your bodies, this is me unloading because of something that has happened to me in the last 72 hours.  

When I went to the dentist on Monday, I was absolutely ready to see one person because she had cleaned my teeth before.  I get there, wait to talk to the receptionist, and then take a seat I usually do not sit on in the office.  Not anything against the seat, it's just super comfy and I can fall asleep.  Well, I sat down and saw a photo of the young lady I was looking forward to chatting it up with while she was cleaning my teeth.  She had passed away 2 weeks earlier.  

Here's the thing - I had ju…

ROYGBIV

This may be a difficult post.  This may be a long post.  This may turn out to be one of my favorite posts.  I'm not sure, but I do know this - I've waited a long time to get to this point in my life and it makes me so happy to be able to share this with you!  

Eleven year ago, I gave birth to a stillborn son.  Yes, I did name him, but because of the laws in my home state at the time, I was not able to get a birth certificate because he was not at 20 weeks.  The only thing I have left of him is his pillow, his prints, and some photos my wonderful nurse took for me.  Within the past year, I've also gotten a tattoo of his prints.  Out of all my ink, that is the one that gives me the most mixed emotions.  I had it placed where I don't have to see it every single day, but when I want to look at it, it's right there.  

Support for this issue, in my opinion, isn't too big.  There is still a stigma attached to it.  As for me, I tell people thank you when they tell me Hap…

What do you prefer?

I know I could be so late, but please forgive me.  I started hearing a new term late last year (or should I say paying attention to a new term late last year).  I started hearing people refer to themselves as curve or curvy models (those in the industry) and women referring to themselves as curvy (other than those doing online dating profiles - totally different blog post though).  For years, it was only one term that was mainstream and it was plus size.

You can pull up the web page for Lane Bryant today and on the tab is says Plus Size Clothing.  The same thing happens when you pull up the web page for Eloquii.  Now, when you find the web page for Torrid, the tab tells you the size ranges.  Here's what I'm asking - how can the industry expect us to use one term for our bodies when they don't?  

I've long worked under the assumption that we should call ourselves whatever we feel most comfortable with.  As for me, I still call my self a plus size woman.  Yes, I have curve…

My new normal

Work has been pretty normal this week, but my anxiety has not been.  Yes, I've been taking my medication, but it's been really bad this week.  It used to be that I would run away.  Seriously, I would go hide - whether it would be in the restroom or in my friend's office that knows about my madness.  However, Monday, he wasn't there and I had to figure out what to do.  

I have something saved on my computer at work that helps me cope.  Well, that madness hasn't worked this week either.  So, what have I started doing?  I do what I know best - I write.  

Yes, I've started writing at work to help me through the day.  I write in a journal.  I write down ideas to share with you on here.  I play word games with myself.  Of course I'm still listening to music, but it hasn't been enough this week.  

I can't really pinpoint what happened, but what I can do is learn to deal.  In a weird way, my friend not being there on Monday helped me out because it forced me t…

New Adventure

I love to write.  I'm constantly trying to connect with other bloggers and see what resources they are using to help get the word out about their blog.  Well, over the past few weeks, I've been paying close attention because I have something really cool coming up.  I've been seeing Bloglovin' everywhere!  In other words, I've decided to give it a try.  

It's simple - enter your email to the right to follow my blog!  I'm really excited about using this and getting more connected to the wonderful blog community!  
Remember, The Plus Diaries are turning 3 in a few weeks and I may just use Bloglovin' to help me with my giveaway!  Just be on the lookout!

8 days later

I really wanted to do this post last week, but I was not in the right space to do it.  I was thinking negatively about the situation, even though I had handled it well.  I had a few people tell me their response would have been totally different, but I did well.  Honestly, during my response, I just kept thinking I'm trying to build a brand.  I can't do that while going off on people at the same time.  Who is going to want to support someone like that?  I wouldn't!  I don't (at least not knowingly)!  Well, let me tell you this madness.  

Last Sunday, I posted something on my twitter about a sermon at my church.  All of a sudden, this lady jumps on my feed and basically took my tweet completely out of context.  I even told her she took it out of context.  I responded and thought that was the end of the situation.  She came back at me.  Something told me to start looking at her feed.  In my opinion, it was full of her being cruel to people because of their opinions.  Ever…