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Cover Story

I bought a new journal a few weeks ago.  Well, I don't know if I should call it a journal.  I like to call it my #BlackBook for my blog.  It's pretty fabulous because I get to draft everything.  By draft, I don't mean write down every single thing.  I mean just a book to get some ideas down.  

Well, this book is just special to me.  Not because I get to write in it, but because of what it says on the front.  For this reason, I'm going to share some things with you that made me want to buy this journal when I saw it in my local Target.  

Be Bold:  There is nothing wrong with being bold.  I've had to learn to be bold and stand up for myself.  I'm being bold with my clothing.  I'm being bold with my decisions.  I'm being bold with taking care of myself and loving myself.  Yes, I'm being bold by standing in the mirror and telling this size 18 body you are loved.  Believe me, that's pretty bold for me.  

Take Risks:  I think I take a risk every single t…

Backstage Pass with Egypt "Ify" Ufele

What were you doing when you were 11?  Think about it.   If you were like me, you were entering middle school, still growing, and learning how to cope with your size.  But there are some amazing people out there doing so much more and one of them is Egypt “Ify” Ufele! 

Ify is the beautiful and talented young woman behind ChubiiLine!  She came up with the name because bullies at school would constantly call her chubby.  Instead of her letting their words get her down, she decided to do something positive.  She turned their words into beautiful creations. 
Ify’s father is from Nigeria.  Many of her designs have an African feel.  In fact, she likes to call it African designs with an urban twist.  She learned to sew from her grandmother.  Those skills are helping her so much with what she is accomplishing.  In fact, she has accomplished so much her Bully Chaser T-shirts are in select Dr. Jay’s stores throughout NYC! 
When she is not designing clothes or doing events, she loves spending ti…

To all the Taylor's of the world

I had a rather interesting morning at my day job.  Not because of something I did, but because of stuff that was going on around me.  Let's just take this step by step.  

The Prey
Apparently, the prey was the guys of the office today.  Not exactly sure why this person (who will be known as Taylor) chose guys, but it was their choice.  The hallway was the place of the action.  Taylor would corner the guys and (from their description) it would seem as if they were putting a hex on them.  This brings us to the next part...

The Meeting
Apparently, my side of the office is basically the most awesome place to hang out and discuss things.  Nothing wrong with that because you learn a lot and the old timers can give you some good advice.  But today, the meeting was about what's up with Taylor?  No one really had an answer, but they did have some stories about other instances involving this person and other people (past and present) of the office.  They included me in the conversation and a…

I Found Dory

I'm a big kid.  Seriously, it's nothing for me to use the hashtag #BigKidAlert.  Well, Thursday night, I was definitely a big kid.  I was so happy I was able to get tickets to the Thursday night showing of Finding Dory.  Out of the fifteen of us in the showing, the youngest person had to be in high school.  

I told my mom about my Thursday night adventure and she asked me how it was.  I told her I really enjoyed it and that I was glad I went.  Then she asked me, and you didn't even have to take a child with you to enjoy it, did you?  Want to know why she asked that question?  Well, here goes....

I love cartoons.  It's not a big secret.  When I go visit them, it's nothing for them to find me in the room watching cartoons.  Usually, they will just sit there and enjoy it with me because I think they just like the sound of my laugh.  However, I've always felt weird about going to see a cartoon in the movie theater without a kid.  

I mean, I'm old enough to have ki…

Picture this!

I had been hinting on my Twitter feed about some big things happening in this blog over the summer.  Ok, so the official start to summer isn't until sometime next week, but the first thing happened last night.  

Yesterday afternoon, after the fierce thunderstorm passed through, my amazing friend hopped in the car with me and we headed to the South Carolina Coast!  We could see the storm in the distance and we ended up staying behind it the entire time.  However, my photographer was a bit worried, but I was hoping for the best...and the best is exactly what I got! 

We arrived at my photographer's house and to our surprise, the storm totally missed them.  It was so dark, but the storm itself was south of us.  Not knowing if the storm was going to change directions, we decided to head to the water to take some shots.  She let me see a few of them while I was there (without editing) and I was already floored because I just could not believe that was me.  But back to the beach part o…

The Learning Process

The Plus Diaries have been gracing your screens for just over 3 years.  In fact, it was only last month we celebrated our birthday! Fun times, right?  Well, it all hasn't been that great.  

Sometimes, there are some days where I've been wanting to shut down this site.  Why?  It gets hard and it gets rocky, but I keep going.  Some days, my posts (in my opinion) get absolutely no love, but then some that I think are weak get so much support that it just blows my mind.  I have done giveaways and no one participated in them, but yet I've been able to reach out to people and have them featured in my blog.  It's not a perfect blog, but it is a blog that is perfectly mine (and yours).  

In these past few years, I have learned some things about my not so perfect blog (well, all of my social media) and how to make it even more not so perfect.  I've tried different things.  Some of them have worked and others have crashed and burned.  However, there are a few things I have man…

Foodie Files

I have been trying really hard to keep my calorie intake in check.  I've been doing very well, if I do say so myself.  However, my arch nemesis is pasta.  I could eat pasta all day long if it was allowed.  On the other hand, have you looked at the calories in that stuff?  Geeezzz...that just messed me all the way up.  But, I found an alternative.  

I love zucchini!  I also love the fact I can turn zucchini into pasta with one little handy machine.  The photo you see to the right is a dish I absolutely enjoy making.  If you want step-by-step instructions, make sure you check out my Periscope videos for part 1 and part 2.  

Yes, this is the finished product.  It was pretty on the video, but I messed it up a little so people who joined in at the last minute could see everything that was in it.  Besides, as I said on the video, I'm not too good at making it look pretty on plates, but I can make sure you have a delicious dinner!  

Just in case you were wondering, yes, my favorite colo…

A Powerful Gift

I have a wonderful friend I've only known for less than a year.  However, she has turned out to be one of the best people I've ever met in my life.  We hang out.  We text almost every single day.  We laugh and we just cut up.  That's just what we do!  The best part about our friendship is that we can have great conversations about life and the things we have experienced.  

We had a cool conversation yesterday about siblings.  She has a few.  I have none.  She talked about her relationships with them.  Their bonds and how it is so different from friendship.  Then she wondered if I felt like I had missed out.  I think I may have surprised her, but nope, I don't feel like I missed out because my parents only decided to have one.  Actually, I feel like I was blessed with an amazing opportunity. 

Just because I don't have sisters and brothers, it doesn't mean siblings.  I was blessed with an opportunity to pick the people in my life (instead of having to kick siblings…

2003 K12 Lane

I'm not really sure who helped me most when it comes to my writing.  My parents have always been instrumental in motivating me and teaching me to think outside the box.  My environment is constantly changing, but all the while allowing me to learn from new people, places, and things.  My friends are pretty cool and they allow me to be myself.  My love is a pretty awesome guy and loves all of my personas.  Things and people can inspire me, but it takes a special person to teach me.  

It took special people to teach me and keep me on my toes from K - 12 and beyond.  Those people, ladies and gentlemen, are some MVPs.  Let me introduce them to you.

In Kindergarten, I had a really awesome teacher name Mrs. Oxendine.  Note, that is no longer her last name, but that is how I knew her.  Her assistant was Mrs. Harrill.  It wasn't my first school experience because I had been in Pre-K.  However, I would like to think this started the foundation to who I am today.  Mrs. Kellett (formerly M…

Lady in red

Ok, I've been working on a draft all week!  Seriously, all week!  And yes, I'm still working on it, but I'm enjoying the process and taking a trip.  However, you will see the post soon enough.  

Tonight is brought to you by the color red.  Well, Saturday night (last weekend), was brought to you by the color red.  About a month ago, I attended a My Favorite Things party.  I had never been to one before and wasn't sure what to expect.  However, I ended up having a great time and getting some wonderful gifts.  If I remember correctly, I got a wine glass, candles, lip gloss, and a few other things.  But let's talk about this red stuff on my lips.

Apparently, Revlon makes this really awesome Ultra Matte HD Lipcolor.  The thing is, when you get your gifts at the party, you have no clue what you are getting.  So, when I opened this gift, I didn't know what to think.  Don't get me wrong, I love lip color, I just always thought I did not look good in red.  Well, this …

Waiting for an answer

I would love to think I'm part of something special in this great big world we share.  I think this blog is pretty special, but maybe I'm bias.  I think my day job is special because I know I'm helping people.  I think all of my relationships are special because even if they hurt, I learn something.  But when it comes to church, here recently, I'm starting to feel a little less special.  

I feel like I have found something great to be part of in my church.  I'm not out in front and I like that.  Believe it or not, I love people, but I could care less about being at the front of a crowd.  I don't have to be seen to be heard (all the time) to make a difference.  I'm perfectly fine sharing the light, instead of being forced into the bright light of popularity.  Lately, I feel like I'm being forced into something that I did not sign up for.  

I've been praying about a decision I know I need to make and each time I think I have it figured out, something ha…

The me files

I have learned you seem to enjoy me more when I'm all the way open about the things I'm experiencing.  You like it when I talk about being sad.  You like it when I talk about my antics.  You like it when I talk about my hair (actually, I think yall liked that one the most).  Not saying you don't enjoy it when I do a backstage pass, but you seem to enjoy me the most when I'm talking about me.  Well, right now, you are about to get a big dose of me.

I had been torn between two topics today.  Honestly, both of them came to my mind this afternoon.  Actually, both of them happened because of a photo.  I had calmed my nerves, but then I saw the photo again on my other social network.  Those feelings just came flooding back.  I'll eventually make it to the original topic, but right now, I think it is time to talk about my reaction.  

Anxiety is a real brat.  It hits me when I least expect it.  It makes me wish things I don't want to wish.  It makes me feel things I don&…

I love my clothes

This post is a bit different because even though I talk about fashion, I don't always talk about my fashion.  Sometimes, I feel like my style is a little too much for people and that people will not like it.  However, even though I take risks, people still like what I wear.  Tonight was no different.  

If you have known me for any length of time, you know I could care less about matching.  I think mixing colors and patterns is neat.  Now, I don't go overboard, but a little bit of mixing goes a long way.  What do I mean?  Well, I thought you would never ask.  

As you can see, matching is not a problem for me because I don't have to match to look cute.  Let's handle this first - some of you are immediately looking at my bra strap.  Here is the deal, I'm a plus diva and my boobs are no different.  It doesn't matter how much weight I lose, my boobs remain.  Currently, I wear a F and G cup, depending on the style of the bra from Lane Bryant.  Yes, those are the only b…