However, I've learned that people who do not want help cannot be helped. It's not being mean. It's just being honest. Why should I spend my energy helping someone who doesn't want my help when there is someone else I could be spending my time with who would appreciate anything I did for them? That just doesn't make sense to me.
So, in order to keep me from doing the true definition of insanity, I think I may just have to leave the madness and the person alone. I wish them the best. Maybe we will cross paths again, but right now, I just cannot deal with the wreck she keeps wanting to be in.
Maturity comes with time and experience. Notice I didn't say age because I know some people older than me who are absolutely immature!!! I don't know if her time hasn't come yet or if they want to keep playing victim, but I'm ready to move on. I gave it my best shot, but this is not worth my sanity.
I wave my white flag!