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Naked in the shower

Apparently, Dani Mathers was Playmate of the Year for 2015.  Not that I'm interested, but this is what the media wants you to know.  Here is what I want you to know - she was dead wrong for what she did today!  At the time of this post, you can check out the most recent story from TMZ right here.  Out of respect for the woman in the photo, I will not be posting (hence why I also sent you to another site).  

In case you decided to not hit the link, let me explain to you what happened.  Little Miss Dani took a photo of a naked woman in the shower of a gym and posted it to Snapchat.  She thought her little post was funny.  However, I don't think she expected the reaction she got to her little photo op.  

This (seemingly average size) woman was minding her own business and taking a shower...more than likely after working out.  It was taken as Dani body shamming the woman (which is all the way true if you read her photo caption).  Well, let's just say people got so hyped about what Dani did, she had to disable her social networks.  Poor thing...

Not poor thing!!!  It was absolutely rude and unnecessary for Dani to take a photo of the woman in the first place!  Quite frankly, it's distributing pornography.  If it had been a man taking the photo and posting it on the snap, I think we all know what would have happened already.  On the other hand, LAPD is already involved and hopefully, some charges will be brought towards Dani and maybe (just maybe) she will learn a lesson in humility.  

People as a whole (I know not everyone) have made great strides when it comes to body acceptance.  We have a long ways to go, but I can tell you from experience that we are not where we used to be.  

More designers are making clothes to fit my size 18 body.  More people are understanding that my size 18 body doesn't mean I'm unhealthy (only major health problem I have is asthma and that is genetics).  I'm more comfortable in my size 18 body.  There are more models who have a body more like the one I have.  There are more people writing about having a size 18 body and being proud of it!  

There are so many people I admire for breaking down barriers on a daily basis.  Ashley Graham has been on my radar since her early days of modeling for Lane Bryant.  Lornalitz Baez has been amazing to me since I realized she modeled for Torrid.  And what about the bloggers and designers?  Ashley Nell Tipton won Project Runway!  Blogger CeCe Olisa shows us each day how to be happy with our bodies (and hair).  I could name so many more, but I can tell you a decade ago, I couldn't name one!  

Look at how far we have come and how dare Dani Mathers take the female body (no matter how it looks) and turn it into something negative?  Seriously!!!  You are a model and your body is scrutinized on a daily basis.  And no matter how good you think you look, I'm sure some of the images posted of you have been photoshopped to remove a mole here or a wrinkle there.  Your body isn't perfect, so stop acting like it is.  

I'm pretty sure the lady in the photo has seen her image floating around the web right now.  I know it hurt her to see herself in such a negative light, but I hope this doesn't set her back along whatever journey she is on - whether it is working out to lose weight or working out the maintain her weight.  I hope she keeps moving and working towards whatever she is working towards.  

As for the other Dani's of the world, I hope you learn a lesson.  We're all human and deserved to be treated as such.  How would you like it if it happened to you?    


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