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Hair Me Out!

Disclaimer:  Definitely talking more to my African-American readers today, but keep reading for some good info.   I think it is safe to say  Yung Joc  won (or broke) the internet on Friday, August 26.  Don't believe me?  Well, all you have to do is a simple Google search and you will figure out exactly what I am talking about.   Did you take a few minutes to go have a look, if you didn't already know?  Great!  If you didn't and just decided to keep on reading, I think I can sum it up pretty good for you.  Yep, that's my tweet!  Sorry for messing up his name, but the way my phone is set up, it likes to spell things correctly.  Well, now we can get back to this post.   For as long as time, the African-American culture has had an obsession for hair, in my opinion.  I'm only speaking for myself, but hair just seems to be pretty important.  When we are little, the person doing our hair gets to have the adventure of telling us to hold your ear, stop moving

Decently confident

It has taken me some years for me to get to a point where I am ok with my body.  My body never stays the same, even though it stays within a certain size range.  My body isn't constant, and I have learned to deal with and dress for it!  Sometimes, I'm really bloated and I don't feel cute, no matter what I have I will choose a dress.  Sometimes, I know I'm going out to eat, so I will wear certain jeans that will still look flattering even after having a burger.  Or maybe, I know I'm not going to be out long, so I will wear a cute pair of sweats and a cute t-shirt.  No matter the occassion, I still find a way to look presentable.  Another reason I always look presentable, I honestly never know where I am going to end up.   Yesterday, I met up with some of my friends to go to a festival.  It was awesome, but it was also hot!  Jeans were not going to be my friend out there, so I decided to wear a cute sundress.  Well, another thing I didn't plan for was th

Red Bulls Eye

It is not a big secret that one of my absolute favorite places to shop is Target!  I love Target!  I love going in there for my cleaning supplies, some snacks, plastic cutlery to take to work, and even to grab me a frap from Starbucks.  If you notice, clothing was not on that list...until now.   Target was just not on my radar when it came to clothes, but my amazing friend has changed my mind!  I told her I can't wear jeans from Target and she took that as her personal mission to help me find some jeans from Target.  Well, this weekend was the weekend I had been waiting for - a shopping adventure with my friend and OMG, it was so worth it.  I didn't end up buying jeans, but I did get some good pieces!   There is nothing more fabulous than a cute top.  I mean, your jeans, shoes, and accessories can be on point, but if your top is not right, there is a problem!  Tops pull together outfits, in my opinion, because they are the first thing people pay attention to!  I was able to

Fall into Fall

It is absolutely no secret that my favorite season is Winter.  I love Winter and Winter loves me.  I was blessed enough to be born in the Winter.  If I'm lucky, I will see some snow flurries and everything will shut down (except for my job).  If I'm really lucky, I'll get trapped in NC at the house of my parentals and my mom will make me some snow cream.  I just love the Winter and I cannot tell you that enough.  But, this post isn't about Winter, but instead about the season that carries us over into winter - Fall (or Autumn, depending on how you are feeling).   I have a love/hate relationship with Fall.  Sometimes, I can get through the season perfectly fine and only have to worry about getting my wardrobe ready.  Then there are those times when I get the most horrible fall allergies and I just want to stay in the house and watch the leaves change.  I love the fall because I like it getting dark a little bit early, but then again I hate it because the most horribl

The Grow Up

Disclaimer:  There are some religious references in this post.  Just fyi, I'm a Christian!   Life is one heck of an adventure!  It's a daily roller coaster with all the twists, turns, flips, dips, and motion sickness we can handle.  Then we get up the next morning (or night depending on your work and sleep schedule) and do it all over again.  Not every twist, turn, flip, and dip is going to be fun though.  It's those not so fun times where we are supposed to learn a lesson.  Unfortunately, not everyone uses the opportunity wisely and allows the bad moments to keep repeating to the point there are no more good moments to keep up with them.  Is that really the type of life you want to live?  If you answered yes to this question, I advise you to change your thinking and to keep reading (but only if you want to change).  If you are good with your miserable status quo, honestly, I pity you.  If you cannot find some type of goodness somewhere in 16 hours (I got that number s

I'm listening

Disclaimer:  I don't talk about my religion often, but I just have to share this experience with you.  I am of the Christian faith.  If you think this post may offend you, please stop reading and just wait until I get back to my regular blogger madness.  For those of you brave of enough to continue, here goes... For the past couple of months, some of the really close people in my circle have known I have been torn about my current church home.  And just for the record, this was going on long before the church drama that recently occurred started.  I was feeling out of place.  Not disconnected, just out of my element.  Truth be told, I was in the process of looking for a new church and then this really great thing happened.   I do my best thinking in the shower, even if I am listening to music while in there. The other evening, after having a fun night with my friends, I heard a small voice speak and tell me be still, the work is not complete yet.   So, skeptics and believe

No Vacancy

To this very day, I still feel bad when I'm not available to people.  I can have a hundred things going on, but if a person says they need me, I try to make myself available.  I know, that's not the healthiest thing in the world to be doing, but I have just always tried to make sure I help as many people as I can.  However, I've learned there are some people who are never going to return the favor.  Those are the people you have to love from a distance.  You still support them, but you cannot let their madness get in the way of what you are doing. I'm learning to be a little bit more selfish with my time and energy.  I want to make sure I devote time to The Plus Diaries and everything I have going on under that umbrella (blog, podcast, and other projects).  Of course, I work a day job, so I have to have energy for that!  Bills have to be paid.  Then I have a pretty solid circle of friends I hang out with.  I make sure to do my bullet journal page each day.  On top o


Think back to a time in your life when the only thing you wanted to focus on was the task at hand.  Have you thought about it?  Good.  Let me tell you about a few of mine. Last year, I needed to keep my nerves in check because I was doing makeup for a bridal party.  Small wedding, but I still needed to be on point.  Talk about focusing on other people and not letting them see you sweat, even when I had to do the flower girls.  All the times I've had job interviews, I focused on answering the questions to the best of my ability.  When I had a piano recital, I made sure I hit every single key in perfect rhythm.  Was I nervous?  Of course, but then I got steady and got to a place where it was just me and what I was doing.  No outside thoughts.   Let's take this to another level.  The Olympic Games.  These athletes are performing their respective sports, but not just for them...for their entire country.  Someone is looking at them in person or on television thinking I wan

Anxi Overload Weekend

Last week, my Friday started off pretty normal.  I knew I was leaving work early and was super excited about that.  I had a few errands to run, so that gave me plenty of time to get my stuff done and not worry about the weekend traffic. I knew I had all these wonderful plans for the weekend and I was really looking forward to it, but then, all hell broke loose.   Friday around 10ish, my desk phone rang.  That doesn't happen often, but I was definitely surprised at who was on the other end.  I had told someone they could use me as a reference.  Well, it came to my attention this person is lying on his job applications and he is lying on me!  Needless to say, I'm correcting the lie, but it is making him look bad in the process.  Quite frankly, that isn't my problem.  However, let me tell you what you are not going to do - you're not going to mess up my career by telling a lie about me.  In a huge twist of fate, the person on the other end of my phone was a guy I had

Backstage Pass with Stacy Kearns

Many people who live in Charlotte, NC are transplants.  Either a person grew up there and were ready to leave on the first thing out of the city or people moved to the Queen City for a job.  That isn’t the case when it comes to Stacy.  Career Coach and Talent Manager Stacy Kearns was born and raised in Charlotte.  She loves her city so much, she remains there today!   Although Charlotte, has a lot to offer, Kearns is more focused on her personal business - to help people reach their goals concerning their careers and help them go further than they ever imagined with their talents.  However, when she is not focused on helping people further their dreams, she does take the time to enjoy some hobbies.  Those include shopping, being a foodie, enjoying a good movie, and being a huge fan of the Carolina Panthers.  Recently, she added a new addition to her family - a beautiful Shih Tzu named Charlie.   Kearns herself is a motivation to many people.  While growing up in Dixie, a forme