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Seven things I hate about blogging

Blogging is such a wonderful experience.  I get to be myself, except for using an alias.  I get to share some of my deepest feelings with you.  Also, I get the chance to meet some really amazing bloggers and just other people on social media in general.  On the other hand, like with all things in life, there are some things I honestly do not like about being a blogger.  I know, I know...hard to believe, right?  How can something I love to do so much have these elements that just get under my skin?  Simple answer - I'm human and I like what I like.  

1 - Cliques I have just come to the conclusion that cliques are everywhere in life.  I have found this particularly interesting in tweetchats.  Although I LOVE them and even do one of my own, I've found that some people (even some hosts), just stick to chatting it up with people they know.  While I'm participating and definitely when I'm hosting, I try to spread the love.  I mean, how else are we going to get to know each oth…

Birthday Series - Meet Demi!

When I tell you the blogging community is amazing, I believe amazing!  It is even more amazing when you get the opportunity to reach out to bloggers in your own community.  This is a wonderful time for me to introduce you to the fabulous Demi of DemiBee's.  We live in the same state and it is so cool to be near a person (in location) and not just on social media.  So, without further ado, let's find out a little bit more about Demi's birthday, past and present!  

1 - What has been your favorite birthday gift? Hmmmm....I can't think of any gift that was my favorite.  Even as an adult, I loved and was very grateful for any gift I had received.  '
2 - What age did you have your favorite birthday party? I guess when I was 4.  My mom used to have my parties at McDonald's.  I don't know why, but that was the one I remembered having the more fun at.
3 - What is your favorite birthday memory? My favorite birthday memory was again when I was younger and my aunt plan…

Birthday Series - Meet Toya!

I just love celebrating birthdays!  I think it's a time to learn and grow.  I also think it is a really great time to get to know some cool little quirks about some other people.  So here we go with getting to know the wonderful blogger, photographer, and mom Toya just a little bit better.  Here we go...

1 - What has been your favorite birthday gift? My favorite birthday gift would have to be my birthday this year (March 9).  My BF set up a surprise birthday dinner with my best friends.  If you know my bf, he cannot keep any type of surprise a secret and to know he actually called my friends and set it up without me knowing...I was shocked!
2 - What age did you have your favorite birthday party? My 10th birthday party.  It was at Chucky Cheese, but back then, it was called Showbiz Pizza (I'm telling my age)!  So many of my friends from school showed up and we partied like we didn't have to go to school the next day! 
3 - What is your favorite birthday memory? My dad singin…


If you have been following my journey to a healthier me this year, you have seen that I have a few rules about how I am going about this.  I'm still eating what I want, just less of it.  I've learned moderation and thanks to LoseIt, I can keep track of all meals and workouts.  It just makes life a bit easier.  I don't think that is too weird.  Next, I have set small goals to help me reach my big goal.  I've been using my bullet journal for this and it is awesome!!!  I love coloring in my old weight and vowing to never go back to that weight.  However, that is more about control.  Not too strange, right?

Here is where I start to throw some people off.  I only weigh myself once a month.  I'm not a number on a scale, but I am liking results.  However, I don't want to get caught up with having to drag out my scale each week.  For some people, that works.  Me, not so much.  I weigh myself on the first day of the month in the morning before I shower.  Here is another …

The birthday post

I don't know if you have been able to tell from my posts this week, but I've been doing some thinking.  I go through this twice a year - once for new year's eve and the next is for my birthday.  Well, we are a bit into the year now, so that must mean my birthday has arrived.  

There is a birthday series I would like to accomplish and I figured I should just start it off with my responses.  So, here goes....

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1 - What has been your favorite birthday gift? I don't have a particular favorite gift, but instead it was a series of gifts.  For my 21st birthday, my mom bought me 21 different things.  I thought that was pretty neat.   
2 - What age did you have your favorite birthday party? I can't remember, maybe it was 10.  However, I do remember that the theme was Lion King.  Yep, it was pretty awesome.  
3 - What is your favorite birthday memory? This one happened in more recent years.  My dad surprised me in my new city and showed up with the exact ride I h…

Last day of...

This is the final day at a certain age.  LOL!!!  Seriously, it hasn't been a bad year, but I do have to say it's been a rough year of growth.  That probably doesn't make a lot of sense to you, but this is the only thing that makes sense to me.  

There are some things in life that I've managed to make peace with.  There are some things I will never have and I understand that I will never have them.  I don't really get it and there are some things we're not supposed to get, but there is a peace about it.  There are some things I'm going to have, but it's going to take me a little bit longer to get them (and that's cool).  Then there are some things I'll get right now and not have to wait another moment.  
I have goals.  I have dreams.  There are some things that I've already worked hard for - my career and this blog being two of them.  And that is what brings us here today.  
For my entire adult life, I have been absolutely career oriented.  It h…

To my former self

This weekend, I get the pleasure of climbing a bit further into my 30s.  That seems weird to me because concerning place in life and a bit of emptiness I constantly feel, I truly feel like I'm in my 20s and have so much time to get all of this stuff accomplished.  But the fact of the matter is that I don't and I don't know if some things are ever going to be in the cards for me.  However, as I continue to get a little bit wiser, I keep learning things and wishing I had known some things.  Since I'm not quite sure that I'll ever have someone of my own to pass along knowledge to, I figured I would tell some things to my former self.  

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1 - It's OK to cry.  It's good for the soul.   2 - Never let someone hurt you to the point that your lose yourself. 3 - Just because your baby died, it doesn't mean you're not a mom. 4 - You don't have to know what you want to do with your life when people expect you to know.  It may take a little while. 5 - S…

The Puff Cuff Review

Disclaimer:  I have not been paid to endorse this product.  This is something that was recommended to me and I decided to give it a try.  Post is NOT sponsored! 
The week of March 6 - March 10, I decided to dedicate my week to wearing hair styles I could only accomplish with the help of my puff cuff.  I've had my family (yes, I ordered the seven cuffs family pack) of puff cuffs for about a month and been playing around with styles.  Well, this was the week I really decided to put them to the test - getting up to style my hair before work and seeing how much time it would take or if my styling would cause me to run into traffic because it took too long.  

Let me get something out of the way - although this is a hair post, I'm not talking products.  I want this post to be totally dedicated to The Puff Cuff.  However, I will give you information concerning products upon request.  Also, it is important for you to know that I have 4b / 4c natural hair.  It's thick, coily, and mos…

Wait on it

Have you ever wanted something and in the most weird way, your sort of got it?  That happened to me this week.  I don't want to say that I had been waiting for a sign, but I definitely had been waiting on something to let me know it's fine.  In a way I never expected, I earned a freedom that I've been craving.  
I guess this came so perfectly.  I was here in a place I didn't want to be in.  I thought I was losing myself, but slowly, but surely, I'm coming back.  I'm enjoying some quiet time in the evenings.  That's giving me a chance to write in my journal, blog, and work on my book.  I've also taken a chance to relax and enjoy my life.  My time is only three hours in the afternoon after work, but it's good for me.  It's amazing how such a small change in your day can help you feel like your feet are back on the ground.  Wonder what will next week bring?

Blogger Recognition Award

I feel like I'm walking the blogger red carpet.  Another award in such a short time.  OMG - believe me when I tell you I'm honored.  I've worked hard in this blog for the past (almost) 4 years and even when I went away, yall stayed.  I am so thankful for all of you and each time you give me a little recognition, it makes me want to do and be better.  

Well, without further ado, I guess I need to get to why you are all here!  The very talented Theo from The Curl Prince blog nominated me for this great honor and I am so thankful!!!  💛💛💛  I think you should go check him out and give him and his blog a follow.   As usual, there are some rules I have to follow and I'm getting ready to handle that part. 

I'm going to keep this short.  This award means so much to me!  Not because people are finally starting to recognize my work, but because I feel like I am finally in a league of some of the bloggers I admire.  You set goals as a blogger - posts you want to write, events …

Music Monday - February Edition

February was a good music month for me.  I have put together my favorite seven songs that I listened to this past month.  They are not in any particular order, so here goes...

1 - Can You Stand the Rain My absolute favorite song by New Edition.  So, I'm guessing after I kept watching that particular scene, it just made me want to hear that song over and over again.  For the rest of February, that was my jam  Even my mom mentioned about how much she enjoyed it!
2 - Broken Vessels This is one of my favorite Christian songs by Hillsong.  Each time I used to hear it at church, it would just do something to me.  Now when I listen to it at home, it has the same effect.  I'm sure I'll listen to it again soon!
3 - Fly Away From Here I'm not sure when I first heard this song from Aerosmith, but it's been on my iPod for years.  Last week, it randomly popped up while I was driving and I did one of my classic concerts in the car.  It was the perfect drive home.
4 - When I'm Gone F…

The Liebster Award

You all know that I love each post that I do because it's my work.  I just love to write.  It's just what I do, when I'm not being a civil engineer during the day.  But this is a special post to me.  This is the first time I've ever been nominated for an award.  I don't think you understand the joy in my heart right now as I type this post because it is just so exciting.  

Thank you so much to the wonderful and talented Demi for nominating me, along with 10 other highly talented bloggers.  

Well, now that I have probably bored you with the introduction, let's get to why you are really here - to know some answers to some pretty cool questions.  What did Demi ask me?
1 - What is your biggest goal for 2017? Did we have to start off with such a hard question?  Oh - em -ghee!!!  I guess my biggest goal for 2017 would be for me to not go on a month long break from my blog.  I know taking breaks is a great thing and I advise people to take them, but when I used to take mo…

Give it up

Each year, I do my best to give up something for Lent.  In the past, I've given up chewing gum, candy, soft drinks (which turned into a lifestyle change), fasted during certain hours of the day, and probably some other stuff that is not coming to me right now.  However, this year, I decided to do something different. 

Since my vacation in October 2016, I've been thinking about my life as a whole and trying to have a better understanding as to why I'm here.  I believe I have things to do, people to see, and places to go.  I haven't quite wrapped my head around all of this yet, but I just know this is how my life is supposed to be.  For 2017, instead of setting resolutions, I decided to set goals.  For instance, I want one of my bills completely paid off this year (and I'm almost there).  I also want to meet certain social media goals for this blog.  There is an ultimate weight loss goal, but that's not what is important to me right now (even though I am actively …