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Mentally Speaking

There are a bunch of things I said I was going to do in 2017.  I was going to lose weight (and that is going great), I said I was going to take more daycations (working on that), I was going to work on paying off a couple of bills (almost finished with one), and a few other things.  However, there is one thing I absolutely had to do - take better care of my mental health.  

I'm trying to be more open about it, but I do suffer from anxiety.  Let me go ahead and get on my soapbox and say if you have a problem with me medicating myself to help cope with my anxiety, just stop reading and go on about your day.  Why did I say that?  I actually hear it from people and I honestly just want to look them dead in the face and say shut the hell up and deal with your own madness.  I chose medication because it was what was right for me at the time and what is right for me right now.  I'm cool with it and unless you want to know me in my worst state, you need to be cool with it too.  Ok, let…

May Goals

You already know from the title what this post is going to be about.  Typically, I don't share my personal goals because they don't have anything to do with the blog.  But that's just it - they do!  When I'm working hard and enjoying life, my writing is so much better.  When I'm down, I think you can tell.  So, here are some things I want to accomplish in May!  

1 - Lose 5 pounds I hit the dreaded plateau at the end of March and the first half of April.  I know this because when I went to the doctor and got on the scale, I had maintained the weight from the birthday celebration.  I weigh myself again on May first, but I hope June first tells a greater story.
2 - Buy wedding shoes So, I guess I have put this off long enough.  Nope, not getting married, but I'm in one in the middle of June.  Time is running out and if it like the last time I was in a wedding, I had to order them.  Yep, I'm that girl with the weird feet.
3 - Finish 1 chapter in my book This book doe…

One month away

I cannot believe this time of year is getting ready to come my way again.  One month from today, this blog, my baby will be four years old! 

I simply cannot wait!  However, I want to do something a bit different this year and I need your help.  I am looking for guest bloggers, writers, or just people who feel like they have something to say.  I would like to feature you in my blog to celebrate my bloggerversary.  Yeah, I know it's typically called something else, but you also know that I'm different.  
Here is all you need to do - contact me on Instagram starting today!  There will be a post letting you know what I need for you to do.  That's it!  I'm so looking forward to working with you!!!  

Talking body

There has been a few videos floating around on Facebook recently that has really annoyed me.  The video isn't annoying me, but the reaction.  There is a young lady who is showing how to put on shape wear.  Cool.  I have a few items myself - don't wear them often, but the product she is wearing has caught my eye recently.  

In the videos, to me, it is OBVIOUS this woman has lost a considerable amount of weight.  She is basically using the shape wear to help hold in the skin around her mid section.  Cool.  She seems to struggle, but who doesn't when trying to put on this stuff that has the potential to cut off your circulation?!  Ok, dramatic, but we know that is how it feels!  She gets it on and she looks great, which is exactly what the product is supposed to do.  

So why are people laughing at her?  Someone posted in the comments just go to the gym.  Like I previously said, she has obviously done that, but just hasn't been able to tone or is in the process of toning.  P…

What the

I have officially reached the point where I say what the hell is wrong with me when it comes to my place in life.  I'm quickly approaching mid-thirties.  Like, when I say quickly, I feel like the next moment I'm going to wake up from the nightmare and be in my forties.  Dang, I actually said nightmare.  That wasn't one of those words that was planned - that was just me hitting the keys and apparently being really honest with myself about my place in this world.  
It's seems like it's going to be another year of wedding announcements and birth announcements and life is just going to keep passing me by.  I mean, I'm happy for everyone, but I can't help but sit back and wonder what is wrong with me?

I mean, I'm a cool person, with a side of attitude.  However, I'm also curious as to why I keep feeling like I'm being punished.  Yep, that's exactly how I feel - I'm being punished.  It's gotta get better, right?
So, here I sit and just watch …

My name is Shayla and I'm a #psblogger

Tragically and without me really seeing it, my blog - this blog- stopped doing what it was supposed to do, featuring my plus size life.  I was doing Backstage Pass and featuring plus females in the industry (because I cannot seem to get males to be part of it).  I was talking about pop-culture.  I was talking about what I thought would get me more popular.  Then one day, I sat down and looked at my blog heading and the description and realized that blog doesn't exist anymore.  

That realization hurt.  It hurt because, at the time, 3 years of my journey had turned into a few months of posts dedicated to getting blog hits. That's not what this blog was intended to be about and it for dang sure wasn't what I wanted it to be about.  This brings me to today's posts.  

In the last quarter of 2016, I was determined to make a change and get this blog back to its roots.  I wanted it to stand out, but I also wanted it to be a reflection of me.  I'm a plus size woman.  I'm …

Classy, with a sprinkle of salt

Today is Easter Sunday!  Resurrection Sunday!  Whatever your church dubs it, we Christians believe that He is risen!  And that will end my religious portion of this post...I think.

This year for Lent, I gave up my prime TV watching hours of 5pm to 8pm (all times EST).  That's when I would be home from work, getting settled and just turn on the TV to binge watch something until it was time for me to go to bed.  Eating, washing dishes, getting in a workout, and blogging in between.  But for the past forty days, I have enjoyed those three hours without the television.  Want to know what I did during this time?  Let's talk about it.  

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~~~ Music ~~~ I took this time to sift through some of Amazon's playlist and find some music that had me saying how have I not heard this song before?  I really enjoyed just having the music on and letting it take me to a place of absolute freedom.  I love lyrics and I don't care how sick your beat is, if your lyr…

NYX lip week

Unless you have been hiding out for the past few months, you know the new love I have for the NYX collection of lip shades.  OMG - I'm in love with these colors and their feels!  I typically shy away from lipsticks and their products are no different.  I just haven't found a lipstick I enjoy.  But I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that I think I finally found a brand that has the colors I love, at the right price, and that make me feel amazing just wearing them.

Last week, I tasked myself with wearing a different shade each day.  That was a bit difficult because that meant I had to wear the proper outfit...and it didn't always match.  But, this post isn't about my clothes.  It's about my lips.  I'll save my clothes for another week.  

Monday As you can see, there was some red in my shirt (and I had on red capri pants).  However, I didn't want to go for my RED lips because there was an event at work and I thought it would be too much.  I went for a red…

Take the floor

I know how this post is going to sound.  As I type, I'm also prepping myself for the backlash this may cause.  I'm prepping myself for some of you to start your efforts at blackballing me from the blogging world.  I'm prepping for some of you to agree with what I'm saying.  I'm prepping for some of you to send me messages because you don't want others to know you agree.  I'm prepping to have to do a follow up.  Yep, seems like a lot for this little post I'm about to deliver, but this is pretty heavy.  

Brands!  Not everyone starts blogging to do this.  I know I didn't.  However, I have always thought it would be cool to say I got the chance to work with _____________.  I'm not looking for anything for free - you can see that from my posts.  Anytime I've ever mentioned a product, I've gladly purchased them, used them, then told you how I felt about them.  You can check out my most recent post about a product right here.  I've spent cou…

Finding Me

Disclaimer: In this post, we're talking religion.  As I always do, I let you know so that you can stop reading now or choose to keep going.  I'm a Christian, so this post will be based on that.  If this post isn't for you, I totally understand and looking forward to you being able to enjoy some more of my posts. 
It's Palm Sunday.  One more week left in Lent and I am proud to say that I've stuck to what I gave up!  It's been amazingly refreshing and I can honestly tell you that my eyes are a bit more open now.  What I gave up for Lent was simple, but it allowed me to get some things accomplished and get started on some projects I have been putting off.  But here is another thing about giving things up for Lent, people don't always understand.  
I can't really pinpoint where it started back again, but I know for certain in 2015, I seriously made an effort to get back on track with my religious and spiritual life.  This is not me saying that I still don'…

Blown Away

If you have been a reader of this blog for any amount of time or follow me on my social media, you know that I have natural hair.  I love my coily hair.  It can be hard to manage, but we're getting there.  I've been natural officially for five years now, but I didn't do the big chop until four and a half years ago.  Hard to believe since my hair is back to its previous length and longer.  But that length is exactly what brings us here today.  

This time last week, I was so excited because I knew I was getting my hair done.  For me now, getting my hair done means that I'm getting it blown out, getting is slicked down with a flatiron, and hoping I read the weather report correct because I want it to last longer than a couple of days.  Well, this blowout was anything but ordinary - not because of the inch of hair she cut off (getting a trim is part of hair growth and health), but because of the madness my hair was cause in my office for ONE person.  

Monday rolls around and…

It finally happened!

I guess this post has been a long time coming.  Almost 4 years to be exact.  When I started this blog, I had no clue what I was getting into with The Plus Diaries.  That became so evident last year when I had to rebrand to get back to what my blog was intended to be about - my plus life.  Somewhere along the way, I felt ashamed and like I had to conform to get readers.  I have found that to be absolutely false and my readers appreciate my realness, my openness, and the fact that I don't fit into a box. 

Last year, I was on a frenzy.  I just kept writing and I couldn't stop. That was fun, but it also got a little bit exhausting trying to keep up.  Hey, I have a life outside of this blog and that life also includes a full-time job.  

I've been wanting to get on a schedule since I got started and after careful consideration, I have FINALLY come up with a schedule that works for me!  

Ok, call it lazy, but I think my graphic sums it up pretty well.  I always say new month = new g…

Music Monday - March Edition!

You know I love me some music.  March was a great music month for me!  I made a few discoveries and fell back in love with some music from the not so distant past.  In the essence of not wanting to bore you, I'll just give you a quick glance into my music library.  
1 - "Neon Lights" by Natasha Bedingfield This song makes me want to get up and dance.  I know this song is a few years old, but I heard it for the first time last month on Amazon Music.  I put on a random playlist and this was on it.  OMG, it was on repeat the rest of the night! 
2 - "Scars to Your Beautiful" by Alessia Cara This song is absolutely beautiful.  I love the message and I hope everyone takes a little something from it.  Music is supposed to be emotional and make you feel something.  This song does that for me.  
3 - "It Ain't Me" by Kygo ft. Selena Gomez This is a new song that has really had to grow on me.  When I first heard it, I was not feeling it at all.  However, for some …