Friday, November 17, 2017

Step To the Mic

I don't know about you, but as long as I can remember, the elders in my family have always said you have to speak things into existence.  What I've learned in my adult life is that you can also speak negative things into existence.  

You want a happy life?  Speak a happy life into existence.  I don't know what you have to do when you get up first thing in the morning, but do something that gets you motivated for the day.  I'm not stupid, I know there is a possibility that something or some things might derail that positive spirit, but you MUST stay strong during the day.  Find you a mantra that you repeat in order to keep your sanity.  

You want a great relationship?  Ask for what you want and speak it into existence.  Want a different job?  Do the work to get noticed and speak it into existence.  You want a new place to live?  Get on that savings plan and speak it into existence.  

However, there is one small thing you have to do in order to properly speak things into existence.  You have to let go of the foolishness!!!  You can't be speaking a relationship into your life and trying to sample the entire rainbow at the same time.  Pick a struggle!  You can't be asking for a different job and doing the absolute minimum at your current job just to get a check. Really?  Get your life.  You can't want a new place to live and having a six dollar coffee each day.  Keep a fun budget, but get serious about achieving something that your really want!  

Speaking is not the only action you have to take.  You have to make an effort.  Is it hard?  YES!!!  I would be a horrible blogger if I told you it was easy.  Quite frankly, for me, just doing this blog is rough...but I do it because I love it and I want it to be big, so I keep moving forward.  

So, wonderful people of the world, start speaking positive vibes into and over your life.  You deserve it and don't let anyone tell you that you don't.  

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Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Feel the music

Music.  It crosses countries, races, nationalities - oh I just love how it brings people together.  I just can't get enough of it.  If you check out my iPod and Amazon accounts, you will find anything on there except hard rock.  I just can't handle it because it's too loud for me.  But for those of you who love it, rock on!!!  

So, one of my fav artists has a new album out.  If you didn't know, I'm a huge Kelly Clarkson fan.  She will always be the American Idol.  Well, one of her new songs is called Move You.  If you haven't heard it, click on the link to get to her YouTube page and have a listen...but come right back to finish this.  

Someone left a simple comment how did I feel the Holy Spirit?  In the comments that followed, someone said something about always bringing God into things and then someone else said something that made a lot of sense...


Seriously, if you don't feel something from the music you are listening to, you are listening to the wrong type of music.  Music should spark something in you.  It should make you want to dance around your place.  It should be so great that you keep a melody in your head all day.  It should make you want to do something just so you can listen to your playlist.  Write now I'm so excited writing this post, I can hardly get the words out.  Or that could be because I am listening to Eminem and I'm sort of hype.  

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Sunday, November 12, 2017

Here we go...again...

It's no big secret that I took a break from blogging.  It was a great break, but during that break, I was more observant to my social media, especially Twitter.  I'm still hostile with Instagram because that out of order madness is really getting on my nerves.  Back to the tweets though.  I NEVER realized how much wannabe drama there is in the blogging community.  

There are a few things I noticed that I would really like to bring to your attention.  If you are a blogger reading my blog, you will probably already know about this madness.  If you are just a cool person reading my blog, I'm about to probably open up a can of worms.  

1 - Money makes the world go round.
There are wonderful bloggers out there.  Some make money off their blogs, some don't.  Truth be told, I've made money off this blog.  I haven't made $100 bucks, but I have made some money.  I'm not in it for the money.  I do this blog simply because I love to write.  But there are some bloggers out there killing it with making money and I salute them.  There are some bloggers out there killing it without making money and guess what?  I salute them too. We're all playing for the same team here, we're blogging and getting thoughts out for other people to see.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with that madness.  

2 - Follow / Unfollow
So, I semi told you I have a hatred for Instagram because it annoys me that it is out of order.  But what really burns my nerves is the people who follow you, get you to follow, and then drop you so quickly.  That madness needs to stop.  If fact, this is not the first time I've written about this foolishness.  If you are a blogger and you follow me, 90% of the time, you're getting a follow back.  Period, point blank.  Why?  Because I like supporting other bloggers because other bloggers have supported me.  I am so happy you can sort of tell who follows you on Instagram now because it is such a huge help.  Twitter has been had a lock on this part of the game.  

3 - Support
This one is easy, support other bloggers.  Just because someone doesn't have 10k followers doesn't mean they are not putting out amazing content.  I tend to stay out of political posts, but I still show the authors support because they are putting themselves out there.  I admit, I have started to gravitate towards mental health posts because I deal with anxiety and those posts help me see that I am not alone.  Now, don't get me wrong, I just don't go liking pictures if I don't really "like" them, but I'm all about sharing the love with fellow bloggers.  The majority of my blogger pals are across the Atlantic.  If I lived closer to them, I would so try to go to some events.  But until the blogging game gets bigger in the US, I will continue to write and make friends where I can.  Who knows, I might even try to get a blogging event off the ground.  

Ok, that's all we're going to focus on right now.  Here is what I want, just be cool and nice to your fellow bloggers.  You never know what people are going through and just because things look happy and bright on a screen, it may be dark and gloomy on the inside.  

Friday, November 10, 2017

Let's Grow!

People grow.  Sometimes, that means distance comes with growth.  It's not the fault of either person, it's just something that happens in life.  What gets really messed up is when someone is trying to hold on instead of letting life just take its course.  

Life is a crazy thing.  I've been experiencing changes in the past months and that has really put a lot of stuff in perspective.  So, let me give you the surface of some things that has happened in the past three months.  

One of my relatives basically told me on Facebook exactly what she thought about me.  Like, she went off on me for something I said that I thought was funny.  In fact, I put smiley faces at the end of the post.  Guess some people don't have a sense of humor.  

Well, this one is a bit hard for me because thinking about it upsets me.  One of my friends has been arrested.  Ugh, it just makes me angry and when I saw her mugshot, it really hurt because that is not the person I know.  That is not the person I had dinner with.  That's not the person I went to church with.  It's just not her and there is nothing I can do right now to help her situation.  

I have some friends that seemed to have forgotten this great thing - it is important to love themselves first before they learn to love anyone else.  I just want to tell them all love the person in the mirror first!!!  

But, there has been something really great that has happened to me - I started a new job!!!  Ok, real talk though, I was scared as hell to even apply for the job.  Even though I wanted to apply, my friend had to give me an extra push.  Needless to say, I applied, had my interview (which included a small test), and after a brief illness, I was told I had the job...and I started the next week.  I had the guys laughing because the day they told me I had the job, I started moving to my new office.  

So, that is my growth.  I've grown away from some relatives, I've grown to understand that I cannot help all my friends, I've grown to understand that people see love differently, and I've grown into a new job.  It's been an interesting couple of months and I'm looking forward to seeing what happens next.  

Tuesday, November 7, 2017


I know it's been a while.  I apologize, but you know I'm a firm believer in taking breaks.  What I didn't expect was for this break to take so long.  I've been on the rest of my social media sites, but I just couldn't bring myself to write.  It was hard.  Truth be told, I would sit at my laptop and have no interest in blogging.  Not because I didn't want to, but because I couldn't.  

Although you know I'm on medication for it, my anxiety has been truly taking me on an adventure right now.  I'm calm and I am really happy about that, but my nerves have been out of control.  I'm nervous about studying for a test to get my full engineering license.  I've been nervous about my relationship (which apparently all I had to do was talk to my love and that got handled), I've been wary of a few friendships, and since I just started a new job, I just want to do a good job.  But, there has been some good...

If you have known me for any length of time, you know my body is crazy to me.  It's crazy because I've never liked it.  However, I have slowly but surely started to love it.  Are there some things I still don't like about it?  Of course!  We're our own worst critics, but I really love how I am because I can't tell someone else to love their body and go home and cry over mine.  You know I've come a long way if I was able to comfortably and confidently wear a tutu to a concert!!! 

What else caused this break?  Well, I've sort of already told you, but I decided to change my "social media" name.  My parents named me Tameika.  I love my name, but that isn't the reason I never used it on here.  I didn't use it because I was sort of wary of people knowing me.  I'm not that person that gets too close to people, so it was hard to really tell you something so simple as my birth name.  But, I've learned to love so many of you and in turn, you have helped me to love more about myself.  To anyone who has ever read a post and supported me on any social media site, you are why I'm not comfortable with sharing my name - thank you.  

Anxiety is a beast!  Nervous about my own name.  Wow - I never though it would happen, but it has happened to me and I am dealing with it.  

Oh man, there is so much more to share.  I cannot wait to get it all out before I start Blogmas!  Yes, I'm doing blogmas this year!!!  Gah!!!  

Here's to the start of something new.  I have you to thank for that!!!