Tuesday, January 30, 2018

No Plan, Meal Plan

I believe in showing love where love is due.  To all you meal planners that plan Sunday night for Monday through Friday, I salute you!!!  However, you're probably thinking she's just too lazy to meal plan.  That's not it at all.  I can't meal plan because I like to cook.  

Period.  Point blank.  I can't meal plan because I like to cook.  I can cook three times a week, if I'm in the mood.  Sometimes if I'm having a weird day and I haven't even planned on cooking, I will come home and cook.  It just relaxes me.  I had thought about doing meal planning this year, but decided to wait on buying the containers.  I'm glad I didn't buy them because I would not have made it.  Just would have been a waste of money.  But hey, I still may buy them just because I like how they are separated and makes packing snacks easy. 

So, to all my meal planners out there - how do you satisfy meal cravings during the week or do you just cook over the weekend?  Let me know, peeps! 

Photo credit: Pexels

Sunday, January 28, 2018


Call me a nerd (hence the title) or a geek - whichever one works for you.  I know my truth!  But know this, I had an absolute blast at the Florence County Museum, which is located in Florence, SC.  

I made it a point this year to get out of town once a month, even if I am just taking a daycation.  Well, the daycation for January is complete!  Work and illness forced me to wait until the end of the month, but it was well worth the wait.  Yesterday was the day!!!    

I truly enjoy history and art.  Both are classes I enjoyed while in college.  But since that wasn't my major in college, I only took my one required class of each and that was it.  However, when I get a chance to enjoy some are or history, I take the opportunity.  

I also had a great lunch at Vallarta Mexican Restaurant and Bar and followed it up with some delicious sweets from Freeman's Bakery.  

Hope you enjoy some of the photos I took during my experience.  

What have you done (or plan to do in the next few days) that you wanted to get done in January?

Friday, January 26, 2018

Save Yourself

I am so proud of myself.  I have a tendency to just want to help people, even if it hurts myself.  This year, I've made it a point to focus on self-care.  Not being mean or selfish, but I need to make sure Tameika is good first.  

A couple of weeks ago, someone in my life needed something.  They never asked, but they kept dropping hints about what they needed.  Last year, I would have just offered to help.  This year, that's not going to be the case.  Well, the situation has worked itself out.  That's a great thing.  

Honestly, even if the question would have been asked, I would not have helped.  Why?  I'm glad you asked...

It's because for the first time in a few years, I'm finally coming first in my own life.  I'm taking my life back and it feels so wonderful.  I hope this lasts and that the people around me support what I'm doing.  

I can't keep draining myself in order to support others.  Since I'm such an advocate for self-care, it's time for me to start putting it into practice.  

How are you taking care of yourself in 2018?

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Who Am I? The Encore

Well, I'm sure by now you have noticed a few changes to my social media.  Yes, it's still consistent along all of my social media, but I do believe you deserve a reason for the changes.  

My day job is a civil engineer.  I love it!  I worked hard for my degree and I've enjoyed a steady climb in position (and salary) with the organization I work for.  While I love work, I definitely enjoy being a blogger.  However, because of what I do and some of the subject matter, I felt it was best to keep the 8 to 5 person and blogger (and wannabe social media guru) totally separate.  I meant it was easy, for a while...but then something cool, yet unnerving happened.


Pretty sweet, right?  Heck yeah because people were interested in what I was doing.  Oh snaps because the two worlds I had tried to keep apart had suddenly collided.  

I'm not mad though.  I was always an engineer and a blogger.  It's just now, I'm finally comfortable with being an engineer and a blogger at the same time.  

Certain rules still apply though.  I don't discuss work in my blog unless it has something to do with my clothes or hair.  I mean, don't you want to know how I keep my afro under control on construction sites?  I will still tweet fun things during the day and let you into my life on Instagram.  

At the end of the day, I'm Tameika the engineer and Tameika the blogger...it's just now you get to see the name my parents proudly gave to me on the day I was born.  

So, who are you?

Sunday, January 21, 2018

I Get It

I'm starting to understand why a friend of mine is always posting about being given unsolicited health advice.  I mean, it's true - some people lose 20 pounds and think they are a guru.  

News Flash!!! 

What worked for you is NOT going to work for the next person.  Each of us have a different body, different gene code, and way of going about things.  

Then, there is another group of people...those who can't stay on track for six weeks, but always want to know how you're doing it.  It's called being consistent!  It's funny to me that this group of people also always has something to say, but can't seem to get focused on their own thing.  No shade, just being honest.  

But, since some of you need some help being weight loss proper, let me help you out....

Don't Be Intrusive
It's none of your business how much I weight, what my doctor and I have discussed, , or what is on my plate.  I've vowed to be open about my journey this year, but I still deserve and need privacy.  You will see the number of pounds lost, but never the number on the scale.  Some things about me are just off limits.  I think deep down inside, people know this, but being nosey can get the best of all of us.  

Don't Worry About What I Am or Am Not Eating
People do diets that work for them.  I don't consider what I'm doing a diet because I just don't.  I'm still eating what i want, just a little less of it.  In fact, yesterday, I had a pretty solid plate of BBQ.  Don't take one photo I post on Instagram and run with it.  You don't know what I had for breakfast, lunch, or my snacks.  Honestly, that may come in a later post because I love it when people ask, "what are you doing"?

Do NOT Ask Me For Help If You Are Not Serious
I know this is mean, but let me explain.  I know me.  I know what I need.  I know how my brain works.  To help me stay consistent and because I'm visual, I changed up my game.  I am still using LoseIt, but it hasn't been enough.  This year, I'm also keeping a journal to help me see my workouts on the days I do them.  Fifteen squats?  I write it down.  Thirty minutes of Zumba?  I write it down.  I've been doing this daily since January 1 and it has helped me in two ways.  It helps me stay consistent because I don't see gaps and even if I only do one thing that day, I see that every little bit helps.  I mean, as of January 16, I had lost just over 13 pounds.  I know that's not typical, but apparently I've been doing something right.  Long story short, if you're not serious, don't take me away from what I'm doing.  

Basically, if you have nothing positive or encouraging to say, it's best to just stay quiet.  Feel free to ask any questions, but also understand that I don't have to answer them if I don't want to or if it's too intrusive.  Also, take this opportunity to learn the difference between being sarcastic and being rude because there is a difference.  

What are some things people do that annoy you when you are trying to make a positive change?

Friday, January 19, 2018

13 Down, 42 to go!

Tuesday, was weigh day and I am happy to report that I am down 13 lbs!  I'm shocked at this weight loss in just a couple of weeks, but I also have an idea of how this happened.  

I've been drinking at least 64 oz of water a day.  A friend of mine said she was trying to drink half her weight in water.  I made her laugh because I told her if I did that, I would drown.  Hey, learn to laugh...even if you have to take a dig at yourself.  Maybe by the end of the year, I will feel comfy with drinking half my weight in water each day.  Until then, I'll just stick with at least 64 and call it a day.  

A friend of mine posted a fitness challenge where you focus on squats, pushups, and leg lifts.  I've been consistent with following the regimen and I know adding that to my zumba and other cardio has been a help.  

I have been an avid user of LoseIt!  I love it because it helps me count calories and gives me a daily allowance.  However, I am visual and I like seeing things in a larger form and not just on a screen.  So, to help me with this, I bought a calendar that has been converted to my fitness journal.  I only write down any exercises I do that day.  So, I write down the things I do from the challenge and any cardio that I do.  This has been a huge help because seeing these results, I can look back and see ok, I did some type of activity each day.  In other words, when I don't feel like doing anything, I'll keep pushing because I see what a little bit of activity can do.  

I refuse to call this a resolution.  I don't make resolutions anymore.  I think you should strive to be better each day and that's what I stick with.  Better in my life, better in my health, and better in my work.  There is always room for improvement.  

What are you striving to be better in this year?

Photo Credit: TLB 

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Who am I?

Recently, someone I know asked me about my blog.  She had been following me on Instagram and saw a post I made on there about my anxiety.  We started talking about her own struggle with it and she said she noticed I had a blog.  Cool, right?  Yes.  But it was her next question that had my mind turning.  

What is your blog about?

I proudly and quickly tell you that I'm a plus size blogger.  However, under that giant umbrella, I talk to you about a lot of things.  As previously mentioned, I talk to you about my anxiety.  I've talked to you about makeup and even down to where I get my nails done.  I am going to be more open about the ups and downs of my weight loss journey and you know I love talking to you about my shopping adventures.  So, when I put all of these things into one, I guess, deep down at the core, I'm a plus size lifestyle blogger.  If that is something you are interested in, I hope you continue to support me and be part of this world I've been able to create.  

Photo Credit: TLB

Sunday, January 14, 2018

Fall to climb

As much as I try to keep this blog positive and upbeat, there comes a moment when I have a bad day.  Well, at the end of 2017, I had a lot of rough days.  

There would be moments I would be sitting at my desk and have these thoughts of you look horrible or you look like a blob or (my personal favorite when I'm seated) you look like a tire.  Yes, I was thinking that and other things about myself and it started to take a toll on my body and my brain.  

Why was I thinking like that?  Well, sometimes things just get weird and out of control.  My mind was clearly being weird and out of control.  I just wasn't feeling myself at all and that caused other issues.  I was breaking out.  I was absolutely out of control.  Truth be told, I was absolutely ridiculous...but at the while, I kept a smile on my face.  

It's hard going through these slumps, but you can't reach the hills without going through a few valleys.  At the time I'm writing this post, I feel like I'm climbing out of the valley.  I'm getting back into a rhythm, I focused on myself, and I'm enjoying being above ground.  Whatever is to come will come, but I'll take it and if need be, fight back with my best shots.  

Photo credit: Pexels

Friday, January 12, 2018

Accept the unacceptable

I'm pretty certain what I'm about to talk about had been floating on social media for a while, but it got my attention in the last few months of 2017.  I won't include any photos of this particular thing because I've seen several variations of it and at this point, I have no clue who to give credit.  So, here is what has my attention...


I wish I had written some of this stuff down because I am going strictly off my memory.  Some people have stated that it is absolutely cool to be plus size as long as you don't have a tummy.  O....k.....I am a plus size woman with a tummy, so what do you call me other than fat?  Apparently, thick thighs, smaller waist, and a decent cup size is what is in when it comes to being known as an acceptable plus size woman.  

"What is in".  Hmmm.....so in a few years, will there be something else acceptable so that other fabulous ladies who don't fit into the current category will get some attention?  I'm just wondering.  I know what some of you are going to say, well if they have small thighs, a small waist, and big boobs, they're just an average woman.  How can you say that when the average woman is a size 14 or size 16 and plus size models typically start at size 10?  By the way, I hate that plus size models are typically considered size 10 and up because IN MY OPINION (let me make sure to specify that point), size 10 is small.

There is a horrible disconnect when it comes to plus size women, society, and designers.  I truly think if we could all get on one accord about what it means to be plus size, we would all be better off.  I mean, I shouldn't have to go to a store and take two different sizes with me to try on because I have no clue how their sizing differs from the store I frequent most, but that's what I do.  So it makes me wonder, does each store or designer have their own thought about what it is to be an acceptable plus size woman?  We already know society does, so it just makes sense for stores and designer to have that mindset too, right?

Here is what I think is acceptable - loving every one of us, no matter how our bodies are shaped.  Who has helped me in that endeavor?  I'm glad you asked.  I can't do this without mentioning Leah who takes some of the baddest photos in the modeling game.  Man, Gabi has some of the most unique designs I've ever seen.  Selina has been trying to put us on the map for years and she just keeps pushing!  And what can I say about Ashley - I've been following her since I was a teenager having to shop in Lane Bryant.  There are so many more I could name, but I don't think you want to read all of that.  

So whether you accept my fatness or not, I'm accepting myself.  Yes, I'm losing weight, but I'll still be a plus size woman...I just don't know what version of a plus size woman I'm going to be.  

What are your thoughts about the acceptable plus size woman?  

Photo credit: TLB

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

55 or bust

I think I want to share how I plan on coming off these 55 lbs this year.  I usually don't share things like this because I'm proud of being a plus size woman.  I mean, I pride myself in being a plus size lifestyle blogger.  But on the other hand, I also pride myself in being healthy and I know dropping this weight is going to be a huge help in doing so.  

Let me tell you, other than me having asthma, I don't have any health issues.  I'm not diabetic, I don't have blood pressure issues, and I don't have heart trouble...all things that typically come with being overweight.  Just because I am overweight, doesn't mean that I don't take care of myself.  I've lived in my place for just over 6 years and I have NEVER fried food in my place.  I do eat a lot of veggies.  The place where I fall short is working out.  Grant it, I work out, but I feel like I could be doing more...but, I've also realized that 10 or 20 minutes a day is a lot better than doing absolutely nothing.  

So, 55!  I mean, 55 is a pretty hefty (yep, pun intended) goal, right?  It is and on those months where I hit that plateau and I know it's coming, I get discouraged.  This year, I'm trying to not get so discouraged.  This year, I've turned that big goal of 55 into 5 smaller goals.  

Here is the plan to get those 55 lbs off.  Of course, I will make sure to treat myself with each step I reach.  I'm really excited to reach my big goal, but I'm even more excited to take these smaller steps.  We will see how this goes.  

I don't weigh myself daily.  I just can't do that to myself.  As soon as I see that number not move, I'll go eat away the stress of that day.  Instead, I've picked two dates a month to weight myself and using the LoseIt App to help me count calories.  

How are you working towards any of your goals this year?

Photo Credit: TLB

Sunday, January 7, 2018

Days of family past

My final post of the year had some cool questions.  I'm going to use this post to answer those questions.  Do not worry, I'm not going to tell who asked what (because I want to protect you from the possible wrath).  I'm just going to answer them.

1 - What is your relationship with your cousin?
I have no relationship with my cousin.  In fact, I reference this person as my dad's sister's child.  That relationship ended on August 21, 2017.

2 - What do you think caused this reaction from your cousin?
Honestly, I don't have an answer for you.  Of course, my parentals and I have talked at length about it and both told me what they believe to be the cause.  I would rather not say because I want to keep their lives as peaceful as possible and not have to deal with this particular person.  

3 - How do you feel about being around your cousin?
I don't want to be around my dad's sister's child.  As far as I am concerned, this person told me exactly what they felt about me and I take that at face value.  

4 - How has the family dynamic been since this happened?
Well, there has been so much more to happen since that day.  Seriously, so much more and it was and still is cray cray.  In my opinion, sides have been chosen and boundaries have been drawn.  As for me, I continue to keep a low profile and making sure I'm living my best life.  

5 - Did you actually respond?
Yes, I responded to the attack.  I have every right to defend myself, just as if this person was physically attacking me.  Do I hate it played out in public?  Yes.  But at the same time, I'm happy it happened in public because if it didn't, no one would believe me if I had told them the madness.  

6 - Would you change your post?
NOPE!!!  The initial post was funny to me.  They could have kept scrolling and it would have been perfectly fine.  They have scrolled past the hundreds of other posts I've made on there, so what made this post so different?  

7 - Did the cousin apologize?
Nope and I do not expect one.  I learned a long time ago to accept apologies that never come.  I've accepted that apology, but that does not mean I have to be around this person.  I have a plan of action if I'm ever in the same space with them again, but I need to keep that to myself...just in case some people are lurking.  

Thank you so much for reading The Plus Diaries and for reaching out to me.  I'm doing perfectly fine.  This happened on August 21 and every since then, I've learned to enjoy living my best life - no matter who does or doesn't like it.  If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask.  

Photo credit: Pexels

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

The art of the goal

As we start to get settled into 2018, we're all making goals and coming up with plans to stick to them.  I have set a couple of goals, but I'm also thinking of ways to make them easier for me to stay focused on.  Here are a few things I have come up with.  

For my exercise goal, I'm using a fitness journal.  I'm a visual person and I think me seeing what I'm going instead of just logging it into an app with be a huge help.  Each time I do a workout, it goes into the journal.  

When it comes to losing weight, I do have a big goal, but I also have decided to make smaller goals to get to that big goal.  Setting realistic goals is key and I am looking forward to setting many smaller goals to get to the place I want to be.  

I will be traveling more this year, even if it is just daycations.  To help me keep track of these and remember them, I will write about each place I go.  Since I also keep a private journal, all of my adventures might not end up here, but they will be written about.  

Let's have a great first month of 2018.  Step by step, I do believe we can make it happen.  

What is one of your goals you have set for the year?

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