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No Plan, Meal Plan

I believe in showing love where love is due.  To all you meal planners that plan Sunday night for Monday through Friday, I salute you!!!  However, you're probably thinking she's just too lazy to meal plan.  That's not it at all.  I can't meal plan because I like to cook.  

Period.  Point blank.  I can't meal plan because I like to cook.  I can cook three times a week, if I'm in the mood.  Sometimes if I'm having a weird day and I haven't even planned on cooking, I will come home and cook.  It just relaxes me.  I had thought about doing meal planning this year, but decided to wait on buying the containers.  I'm glad I didn't buy them because I would not have made it.  Just would have been a waste of money.  But hey, I still may buy them just because I like how they are separated and makes packing snacks easy. 

So, to all my meal planners out there - how do you satisfy meal cravings during the week or do you just cook over the weekend?  Let me know,…


Call me a nerd (hence the title) or a geek - whichever one works for you.  I know my truth!  But know this, I had an absolute blast at the Florence County Museum, which is located in Florence, SC.  

I made it a point this year to get out of town once a month, even if I am just taking a daycation.  Well, the daycation for January is complete!  Work and illness forced me to wait until the end of the month, but it was well worth the wait.  Yesterday was the day!!!    

I truly enjoy history and art.  Both are classes I enjoyed while in college.  But since that wasn't my major in college, I only took my one required class of each and that was it.  However, when I get a chance to enjoy some are or history, I take the opportunity.  

I also had a great lunch at Vallarta Mexican Restaurant and Bar and followed it up with some delicious sweets from Freeman's Bakery.  

Hope you enjoy some of the photos I took during my experience.  

What have you done (or plan to do in the next few days) that…

Save Yourself

I am so proud of myself.  I have a tendency to just want to help people, even if it hurts myself.  This year, I've made it a point to focus on self-care.  Not being mean or selfish, but I need to make sure Tameika is good first.  

A couple of weeks ago, someone in my life needed something.  They never asked, but they kept dropping hints about what they needed.  Last year, I would have just offered to help.  This year, that's not going to be the case.  Well, the situation has worked itself out.  That's a great thing.  

Honestly, even if the question would have been asked, I would not have helped.  Why?  I'm glad you asked...

It's because for the first time in a few years, I'm finally coming first in my own life.  I'm taking my life back and it feels so wonderful.  I hope this lasts and that the people around me support what I'm doing.  

I can't keep draining myself in order to support others.  Since I'm such an advocate for self-care, it's time f…

Who Am I? The Encore

Well, I'm sure by now you have noticed a few changes to my social media.  Yes, it's still consistent along all of my social media, but I do believe you deserve a reason for the changes.  

My day job is a civil engineer.  I love it!  I worked hard for my degree and I've enjoyed a steady climb in position (and salary) with the organization I work for.  While I love work, I definitely enjoy being a blogger.  However, because of what I do and some of the subject matter, I felt it was best to keep the 8 to 5 person and blogger (and wannabe social media guru) totally separate.  I meant it was easy, for a while...but then something cool, yet unnerving happened.

Pretty sweet, right?  Heck yeah because people were interested in what I was doing.  Oh snaps because the two worlds I had tried to keep apart had suddenly collided.  
I'm not mad though.  I was always an engineer and a blogger.  It's just now, I'm finally comfortable with be…

I Get It

I'm starting to understand why a friend of mine is always posting about being given unsolicited health advice.  I mean, it's true - some people lose 20 pounds and think they are a guru.  

News Flash!!! 
What worked for you is NOT going to work for the next person.  Each of us have a different body, different gene code, and way of going about things.  
Then, there is another group of people...those who can't stay on track for six weeks, but always want to know how you're doing it.  It's called being consistent!  It's funny to me that this group of people also always has something to say, but can't seem to get focused on their own thing.  No shade, just being honest.  


But, since some of you need some help being weight loss proper, let me help you out....
Don't Be Intrusive It's none of your business how much I weight, what my doctor and I have discussed, , or what is on my plate.  I've vowed to be open about my journey this year, but I still d…

13 Down, 42 to go!

Tuesday, was weigh day and I am happy to report that I am down 13 lbs!  I'm shocked at this weight loss in just a couple of weeks, but I also have an idea of how this happened.  

Water:  I've been drinking at least 64 oz of water a day.  A friend of mine said she was trying to drink half her weight in water.  I made her laugh because I told her if I did that, I would drown.  Hey, learn to laugh...even if you have to take a dig at yourself.  Maybe by the end of the year, I will feel comfy with drinking half my weight in water each day.  Until then, I'll just stick with at least 64 and call it a day.  
Challenge: A friend of mine posted a fitness challenge where you focus on squats, pushups, and leg lifts.  I've been consistent with following the regimen and I know adding that to my zumba and other cardio has been a help.  
Journal:   I have been an avid user of LoseIt!  I love it because it helps me count calories and gives me a daily allowance.  However, I am visual and I li…

Who am I?

Recently, someone I know asked me about my blog.  She had been following me on Instagram and saw a post I made on there about my anxiety.  We started talking about her own struggle with it and she said she noticed I had a blog.  Cool, right?  Yes.  But it was her next question that had my mind turning.  

What is your blog about?
I proudly and quickly tell you that I'm a plus size blogger.  However, under that giant umbrella, I talk to you about a lot of things.  As previously mentioned, I talk to you about my anxiety.  I've talked to you about makeup and even down to where I get my nails done.  I am going to be more open about the ups and downs of my weight loss journey and you know I love talking to you about my shopping adventures.  So, when I put all of these things into one, I guess, deep down at the core, I'm a plus size lifestyle blogger.  If that is something you are interested in, I hope you continue to support me and be part of this world I've been able to creat…

Fall to climb

As much as I try to keep this blog positive and upbeat, there comes a moment when I have a bad day.  Well, at the end of 2017, I had a lot of rough days.  

There would be moments I would be sitting at my desk and have these thoughts of you look horrible or you look like a blob or (my personal favorite when I'm seated) you look like a tire.  Yes, I was thinking that and other things about myself and it started to take a toll on my body and my brain.  

Why was I thinking like that?  Well, sometimes things just get weird and out of control.  My mind was clearly being weird and out of control.  I just wasn't feeling myself at all and that caused other issues.  I was breaking out.  I was absolutely out of control.  Truth be told, I was absolutely ridiculous...but at the while, I kept a smile on my face.  

It's hard going through these slumps, but you can't reach the hills without going through a few valleys.  At the time I'm writing this post, I feel like I'm climbing …

Accept the unacceptable

I'm pretty certain what I'm about to talk about had been floating on social media for a while, but it got my attention in the last few months of 2017.  I won't include any photos of this particular thing because I've seen several variations of it and at this point, I have no clue who to give credit.  So, here is what has my attention...

I wish I had written some of this stuff down because I am going strictly off my memory.  Some people have stated that it is absolutely cool to be plus size as long as you don't have a tummy.  O....k.....I am a plus size woman with a tummy, so what do you call me other than fat?  Apparently, thick thighs, smaller waist, and a decent cup size is what is in when it comes to being known as an acceptable plus size woman.  
"What is in". in a few years, will there be something else acceptable so that other fabulous ladies who don't fit into the current category will get some a…

55 or bust

I think I want to share how I plan on coming off these 55 lbs this year.  I usually don't share things like this because I'm proud of being a plus size woman.  I mean, I pride myself in being a plus size lifestyle blogger.  But on the other hand, I also pride myself in being healthy and I know dropping this weight is going to be a huge help in doing so.  

Let me tell you, other than me having asthma, I don't have any health issues.  I'm not diabetic, I don't have blood pressure issues, and I don't have heart trouble...all things that typically come with being overweight.  Just because I am overweight, doesn't mean that I don't take care of myself.  I've lived in my place for just over 6 years and I have NEVER fried food in my place.  I do eat a lot of veggies.  The place where I fall short is working out.  Grant it, I work out, but I feel like I could be doing more...but, I've also realized that 10 or 20 minutes a day is a lot better than doing a…

Days of family past

My final post of the year had some cool questions.  I'm going to use this post to answer those questions.  Do not worry, I'm not going to tell who asked what (because I want to protect you from the possible wrath).  I'm just going to answer them.

1 - What is your relationship with your cousin? I have no relationship with my cousin.  In fact, I reference this person as my dad's sister's child.  That relationship ended on August 21, 2017.
2 - What do you think caused this reaction from your cousin? Honestly, I don't have an answer for you.  Of course, my parentals and I have talked at length about it and both told me what they believe to be the cause.  I would rather not say because I want to keep their lives as peaceful as possible and not have to deal with this particular person.  
3 - How do you feel about being around your cousin? I don't want to be around my dad's sister's child.  As far as I am concerned, this person told me exactly what they felt abo…

The art of the goal

As we start to get settled into 2018, we're all making goals and coming up with plans to stick to them.  I have set a couple of goals, but I'm also thinking of ways to make them easier for me to stay focused on.  Here are a few things I have come up with.  

For my exercise goal, I'm using a fitness journal.  I'm a visual person and I think me seeing what I'm going instead of just logging it into an app with be a huge help.  Each time I do a workout, it goes into the journal.  

When it comes to losing weight, I do have a big goal, but I also have decided to make smaller goals to get to that big goal.  Setting realistic goals is key and I am looking forward to setting many smaller goals to get to the place I want to be.  

I will be traveling more this year, even if it is just daycations.  To help me keep track of these and remember them, I will write about each place I go.  Since I also keep a private journal, all of my adventures might not end up here, but they will be…