Tuesday, August 22, 2017

That eclipse and such

Yesterday was lit.  Went to a baseball game, had a few laughs (some at the expense of others) and of course, enjoyed the eclipse.  So, in my location, we had totality.  That was the absolute coolest thing!  Seriously, the temp dropped a little bit.  But what was so fun, is that it went pitch black.  Street lights came on, babies started crying (that had me worried), and I got to see some people I haven't seen in a long time.  

Overall, it was a great day.  You know, family drama aside.  But, this was definitely in the top three events of my life.  Yep, I think it even passed the Justin Timberlake concert when I had floor seats.  Amazing.  And, I was able to help one of my besties check something off her bucket list.  What a beautiful day it was!!!  

Sunday, August 20, 2017

Clothes Mentor - shopping adventure!

So, today was the day for my shopping adventure at Clothes Mentor Columbia!!!  I was able to find some really great things and also take some things for them to sell.  You know I take such good care of my clothes so it will be cool for someone else to enjoy them.  But before I continue, there is something I need to say....

Happy 3rd Birthday to Clothes Mentor!!!

Ok, now where was I?  Oh, just getting ready to show you some of the things I found while shopping.  Yep, just a post full of photos.  Hope you enjoy!  

Friday, August 18, 2017

Blogging and the break

It's no big secret that I, Shayla, took a two week break from blogging.  I wasn't traveling.  I wasn't super busy at work.  I wasn't doing anything major that most people would need a break from.  I was just breaking.  If you need a reason, let's just say I was putting my life back together.  We cool?  Great!  

I told you earlier that I took a break so that I could throw some support to some other bloggers.  I didn't get as much accomplished on Bloglovin', but I was rolling on Instagram and Twitter.  So as I was thinking about what this break was really about, I thought it would make a nice little post.  And then I was like - hmmmm.....I haven't done a Shayla's Seven post in a while.  Well, that brings us here!  

Without further ado, here is Shayla's Seven - blogging edition.  

1 - Automated Messages
I KNOW that I have mentioned this before.  However, during my break of being more observant to the blogger community, I noticed this coming up again.  But here is the tweet I absolutely cannot stand - If you send an automated message, I'm automatically unfollowing you.  My response to that is...

BYE, BOO!!!  

I send automated messages to say thank you.  Yes, I put my other social media in the message, but I start out by simply saying thank you.  So, basically, you're unfollowing me for being polite?  Cool!  Now, if you have the time to sit there and thank each follower as they come to your page, more power to you.  As for me, I have a day job, and until I can afford an intern or assistant, an automated message you will get!  Also, please keep in mind, automated message is different than automated comment.  See the following number.

2 - Numbers
We all want people come to our blog page.  That goes without saying.  We want followers, we want people to like our posts, and we want people to interact with us.  But let's be real, you wonderful people out there who have 135k followers and only 353 post likes are absolutely ridiculous.  How hard was it for you to get that number - a simple entry of your credit card number to get those followers?  What happened to hard work?  What happened to actually knowing your audience?  What happened to actually wanting to interact with people?  And we know when your numbers are lying - if I have posted something on Twitter or Instagram about having a rough day and you respond with OMG (followed by something that has absolutely nothing to do with the subject matter), there are two things that have just happened.  I now know your game and that you are truly ridiculous and there is absolutely no reason for me to be following you because you're not trying to know my page anyway.  

3 - Responsibility
Make a mistake?  Own up to it and for the love of everything, please move on!  During my breaking period, a blogger found herself in a bit of a situation.  Not only did she recognize her wrong, but she went public about it by putting it in a blog post.  Nope, not going to tell you who and what the stuff was about because it isn't my story to tell.  But please know she got a response from me on Twitter because I thought that was absolutely cool.  Hopefully more people can start to own up to the wrongs they have committed.  

4 - Negativity
I guess when it comes to blogging, I'm old.  I'm in my early thirties.  This game now is a bunch of teen and early twenty people that haven't had the age to see or know some of the stuff we blogging seniors know.  Notice, I did not say experience.  You NEVER know what people have gone through.  Let me give you an example before I move on.  From looking at me, you would have no clue I'm technically a mom (and you definitely don't know unless I tell you).  In my early twenties, I experienced the death of my child at birth.  See, age has nothing to do with experience, but you do get more experience with age.  In other words, stop trying to put people down for something you think they have or haven't gone through.  I saw too much bashing happening and I have to say, I was quite disappointed.  We, as bloggers, are always preaching about community, but yet if I was new to the blogging world and was in touch with a few of you, you would have definitely made me reconsider this whole blogging thing.  

5 - Consistency
I have to say this, on my social media, yall didn't miss a beat.  For that, thank you.  You knew I was on break, but yall stood by me on Instagram and Twitter.  Yes, I was still posting on those networks.  I mean, it's not like I went to go live under a rock for two weeks.  I learned that if you let people know and if you have been consistent with posts, people will stick by you.  I didn't post at my normal time on Instagram, but you were still there waiting to see what was going to happen next.  

6 - Support
If you advertise as a place for bloggers to have posts re-tweeted, do that please.  Your page clearly says, tag me for a RT or use #something for a RT and we don't EVER see a RT from your page (except from your clique).  Oh, the irony!  Yep, you've been noticed, and people don't like it.  I don't like it.  It's one thing to not RT a post because of your values on the subject.  I'm cool with that.  I have values too.  But, you're going to have a hard time convincing me that you didn't RT a post about a recent shopping trip simply because you didn't like the outfit the person posted.  Really?  Come on, people, I know kids who can come up with a better excuse.  

7 - Reach Out
Sometimes, all it takes is you reaching out to someone.  I took a risk by reaching out to a brand and it turned out to be something cool to do this week.  I hope I get more opportunities like this.  But in saying that, don't just sit behind your screen and wait for someone to come knocking on your inbox.  Sometimes, you just have to (positively) put yourself out there and hope for the best.  And if it doesn't work the first time (because it definitely didn't for me), keep trying.  Someone will be willing to give you an opportunity.  

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Well, that's all for this post!  I hope you enjoyed my insight and as always, comments are welcome!  I am looking forward to what you have to say about this post.